I am so tired of the "shoplifting shouldn't end in death" argument.
When my niece was 17 and I had her and the other kids at an amusement park I let her go off on her own and she was caught shoplifting. My niece is hi-racial, self identifies as black, and is considered black by others on sight. Here's what didn't happen:
She didn't strong arm the store clerk when confronted.
she he didn't walk down the middle of the road afterwards drawing attention to herself.
When end the authorities approached her she did not argue or physically assault them, she did as she was told.
She did not attempt to take anyone's gun.
She did not run away.
She he did not charge the authorities.
She did not die.
See ee how that works?
here's what else didn't happen:
when end they came to get me I didn't defend or make excuses for her actions.
I didn't tell her she was caught because of racial profiling.
I didn't try to make it about anything other than what it was: her commuting a crime, getting caught, and having to face consequences.
Heres what hat did happen:
I told her how disappointed I was.
When she cried and said how stupid she was I wouldn't even let her have that excuse. I told her it would be easier to accept if she was really stupid but that I knew just how smart she was and how low she had dropped her standards and personal morals to do what she had done.
I made her call her parents herself and tell them what she had done.
This year, her first year of college, in the aftermath of all this she called me to thank me for not letting her fall back on excuses, for holding her accountable for her own actions. Those are her words, not mine. She attributes being where she is after that incident to being made aware that she has personal responsibility for the path in her life. I could not be more proud of the path she has chosen.
So, please, do not trot out the "shoplifting should not lead to death" argument. Michael had choices. He chose his own path.