My husband and I were both born ins. I left in 2009, and he followed me out a bit later. We were one of those couples who followed the script, married young and ended up having nothing in common other than the religion. Also, he's an alcoholic.
The last straw was last night. No need for details, but I'm done.
We've been married 13 years. I've been a stay at home mom to our 4 young kids for 10 of them. Three of our kids were adopted with special needs, meaning that I spend a large portion of my week shuttling to and from therapies and appts. I have no recent, relevant work experience. My husband does most of the finances, so I'm in the dark there too. I'm so embarrassed to say that I literally let myself fall into the deep, dark hole of "stay at home mom"-dom and the prospect of clawing my way out alone is terrifying. My kids are used to a nice middle class lifestyle: 3 meals a day, nice house, safe neighborhood, going to gymnastics and ballet.
I thought I'd post here since you are a fabulous crowd with a knack for re-inventing yourselves and must have many ideas. I've done it once (after we left the JWs---so hard, but so worth it). I feel so selfish doing this to my kids, but I can't live with him any longer. I'm meeting with an attorney next week to help me fill in the details, but I don't even know what the next few years will hold. I'm scared for my kids and for me. I am a super smart, capable person and will find our way out; it's just the process that is terrifying.
Any experiences/advice/jokes welcome. Thanks for reading.