So my husband and I are on vacation. We are in another country visiting his non-JW family. We lived here for many years, and our closest JW friends are all here, albeit a 4 hr. plane ride away. They all know that I am inactive, and since we weren't planning on visiting the town we lived in, 2 families came to us.
We had a blast together. We laughed until we cried, we caught up on all our friends' lives. We haven't seen them in 8 years, but we picked up where we left off like it was just last week we'd been together.
My friend had her phone FULL of greetings to us from people we know. Pictures, video messages, emails, etc, etc. Mostly they were to me, and it was really nice to see everyone.... at first. After a while, it was just uncomfortable. It was too much, it was unnatural, something.
And then one day 'the guys' were all out and it was my friend and me. And the questions began... what could she do to help, what had happened that I felt that I couldn't go back to meetings, how it was so important to stay close to Jehovah's organization, the great tribulation was about to begin, blah blah blah. I know she is sooooo sincere, and she and her whole family have fallen for the JW garbage hook, line, and sinker. She was literally in tears, trying to figure out some way to 'help' me.
I mostly told her that I knew that Jehovah understood the situation I was in (I don't believe in Jehovah), and that no matter what anyone thought, Jehovah knew that I was doing the best that I can. After so much talk about my trusting in Jehovah and how I know that Jehovah is helping me through my difficult time, she switched gears to Jehovah's Orginazation and how important it is that we stay close to that.... good grief. I'm exhausted, lol!
Anyway, it was kind of a twilight-zone experience for me.... I feel sorry for my friend, so blinded to reality. But I feel a little sorry for me, too. I miss the friendships that we had. We have history together, and our relationship will forever be different because I left the JWs.
Her kids are pioneering, as is her husband and her sister-in-law. Another sister has moved Where The Need Is Great with her husband and they have put off having children until the Paradise. MY kids have graduated from 2 of the best universities in the world, have great jobs, LOTS of friends, have traveled the world, and are free to think, say, and believe what they want. And that is priceless.