Tips and tricks from the ladies......

by butalbee 19 Replies latest social relationships

  • butalbee

    .........and men.

    How does a person get her mate back into her/his life? Is their tips or tricks that you could share to get a man to fall deeper in love w/ you, how do you rejuvinate(sp) the spark, how do you make it always feel like the first time you've met and fell in love? What does it take to prove that you really do love someone? And what does it take to prove this to that person? Any advice appreciated....please reply.

  • Elsewhere

    Easy... go down on him and give him sex any time he wants.

    "As every one knows, there are mistakes in the Bible" - The Watchtower, April 15, 1928, p. 126
    Believe in yourself, not mythology.
    <x ><

  • butalbee

    Elsewhere--thanks but I just posted another thread about this, about sex not a expression of love--got anything better than "oral" advice?

  • myself

    my oral advice is: communication.

  • Xander

    Well, damn, if that doesn't work....

    (wait, you *sure* it's really a man? I mean, REALLY???)

    Xander F
    (Unseen Apostate Directorate of North America - Ohio order)

    A fanatic is one who, upon losing sight of his goals, redoubles his efforts.
    --George Santayana

  • Pierced Angel
    Pierced Angel

    Let them see you out on a date with someone else usually jumpstarts their engines.

    Or it could backfire, so choose your date wisely!

    (don't listen to me, I'm no good at love, but I love the oral sex approach, works on my Italian honey)


  • LB

    you want to get someone back into your life? I think it's pretty tough to go back. There are reasons why people are no longer in your life. My thought is move forward.

    Never Squat With Yer Spurs On

  • slipnslidemaster

    Two words: anal.

    Slipnslidemaster:"There are no facts, only interpretations."
    - Nietzsche

    Unseen Apostate Directorate of North America

  • Scully

    Sorry butal, I think your best bet - no matter how much you realize you've messed up what might have been the best thing to ever come your way - is just to exit with as much grace and dignity as you can muster, learn from the mistake and vow to YOURSELF to never repeat it, and move on.

    Maybe, in time, he'll come around, but trying to force the issue is going to send him running. Be grateful if you can resume a friendship with your ex, but don't expect anything more. Trust is one of the hardest things to recover once it's been lost.

    Love, Scully

  • SPAZnik

    I'd suggest this (this has never failed me yet):

    Shift from
    "get her mate back into her/his life" via "tips/tricks"

    finding that complete happy feeling on her own first'.

    Or as LB said, "move forward".

    Anything is possible
    but not until you get a life of your own. Genuinely. For Real.
    A life where your happiness does not depend on the love of another.

    Then and only then,
    (in my experience)
    do all the other tips/tricks
    work wonderful miracles.


    If you try what myself said: "communicate"...

    Yes, swallow.

    Your pride that is. Be honest and open
    with the person you are seeking to win back. Find out what it is he/she would expect in order to give you another chance.


    Last but not least....don't FORCE it.
    Do not try to force him/her to be, do, think or feel
    your way on the matter.

    Do everything in your power to play it kewl. If you can't, then perhaps you should leave it alone and come back to address it later.

    blah blah blah yadda yadda yadda...ok i'm done.


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