Disfellowshipment, excommunication, etc are man-made expressions and concepts, and something Christ did not teach or practice.
Concerns over whether one is no longer a part of "the organization" shows fear of "the organization." It is "the organization" that wields power, control and influence over the individual. This is what is called being "in fear of men" (and what they can do to you, namely disfellowship you). Should you care?
Rather, one should be concerned over what The Most High God can do to us: Namely, grant eternal life or eternal destruction (nonexistence). I guarantee you that God and his son are far more tolerant, forgiving, mericful and loving than any religious organization. And, that God and Christ do not burden us down with tons of rules and regulations as religious organization does. One should notice that the Watch Tower (and indeed all religious organization) love to condemn, make ultimatums, and issue threat if one does not act and join them. There is an "us versus them" mentality that exists. The "them" are who the WT labels as "worldly persons." It is almost as if they desire the demise of any who do not follow what they teach or persons who use what God gave them: a brain to think for themselves with.
Disfellowshipment is designed to indoctrinate one to be in fear of men and to enslave individuals into the concept of "an organization." The organization is hyped up as being larger than life (namely, God's Earthly Organization) and members therein are made "dependent" upon it. It becomes their "Mother" and they her children.
The organization does not have a Head as it views itself as Head over those within her. The organization has usurped what Christ is in relation to man: The Head. (1 Cor 11:3)
Thus, an anomaly - a monstrosity - exists:
God
Christ (God his Head)
The Organization (Has no Head)
Man (Christ is supposed to be Head but the organization has imposed itself in between Man and his true Head and Owner)
It should be:
God
Christ (God is his Head and Christ is mediator between man and God)
Man (Christ is man's Head)
"The organization" should not be in the mx in any capacity. Yet, it is there and it treats that which Jesus purchased with his blood (all of mankind) as if it is their property, its Head).
So if one is DF'd count it as a blessing and a release from captivity. But have the good sense to do something with your new freedom. Do not go off the deep end; do not go off on JWs, God will deal with all false teachings and false prophets; and do not go into another religious organization as Christ is not "within" any of them but he is "without" of them.
What to do? Well, look at what is no longer in front of you: "The Organization." You will see:
God
Christ
YOU
Now you can approach the Father through your Master - Your Head - without an organization. How? By serious and intense prayer to the Father "through" The Master Christ. No organization is supposed to impose itself telling you that it is "only" through "association" with "The Organization" is access to the Father possible. Christ is the way, the truth and the life, not an organization.
Sadly, many are afraid to remove the cancer of "religious organization" from before them and they will remain in captivity because of that fear. Service to Christ requires not only faith, but also courage and boldness. This courage and boldness may get you labeled as an Apostate, but if you are truly free, you do not have to subscribe to Watch Tower labeling. You reject their labels. It is God and Christ who defines you, not an organization.
R. Jerome Harris
e-Prophetic.com