Cog, I remember there used to be a saying that new ones in "the truth" should be locked up for six months because they are so excited about what they've learned that they run around telling everyone and they seem quite crazy.
I think learning TTATT is the same. We learn omg all this bizarre truth and we have a gazillion light bulbs clicking on at once and we want everyone else to see what we see and we want to save everyone and we want to run screaming away from the cult!!!!!!!!!
But wait, then reality hits, and we realize that our family members (a) think we're nuts and (b) aren't ready to handle the real truths quite yet.
So we prance, and stew, and wait, and get antsy, and it's hard as heck to get through the day without shouting it from the rooftops but then we realize [again] that our family members (a) think we're nuts and (b) aren't quite ready to handle the real truths yet.
So slowly, we learn to remember what triggered us, and how long it took, and think about taking a really deep breath and figuring out how to save those we love that are several or many steps behind us. Learning TTATT is many things, but one thing it requires to share with someone else is PATIENCE. And that's so hard to do!!!
But you can do it. :) You're on your way to a new and wondrous life with your precious wife. Plan it well, be patient, and it will happen. YOU CAN DO THIS.
Hugs to you both,
cBg