Problem is, I'm getting a little hooked on him. Why is it that the best things in life are usually the things we cannot have? I believe I have, or should I say "we" have, the forbidden fruit syndrome? :-)Next question, we have fooled around a little, nothing too serious, but he is telling me that what we did was wrong and that it is weighing quite heavily on his conscious. He has told me that he will have to "confess" to his elders to make things right. In my beliefs, if I have done something that I consider to be against my morals, I pray to God for forgiveness, try not to beat myself up to much, because we are all human, and we do make mistakes, and then I try to learn from my wrong doing and go on with my life. What exactly is the purpose of going to your elders and then before a jury of them? Will he be punished? And how many people in his life will he have to tell about what we did? Will I be viewed as a bad person? Or should I say an even worse person? :-) Doesn't God's forgiveness come from him and not some elders? I am confused!
Okay, pad, now listen very very carefully---you two played around just a little bit, probably kisses or whatever, but in his odd ass mind: he is trying to be this perfect human, just like jesus, and how important it is for him to live up to this perfect human to please Jehovah who gave up his only son, blah, blah, blah....the jist of this: If you two are sitting on a couch, and he starts babbling this perfect human crap to you--this is the indication that you must now run for the door or jump out the window. He's feeling guilt and it is overwhelming him, esp. if you are not a JW, that's like a double whammy. He will be going to confess to the elders and then he'll be studying w/ a ministral servant to get him back right w/ his God. And the more you try to help ease his guilt he will tell you he needs to be w/ his congregation, that he would be nothing w/out them, blah, blah......
You're hooked on him, I know this feeling all toooooooo well. I WAS hooked on dimwit myself, would've given up everything for him, in the long run, I did give up everything, and he gave nothing in return. He only broke my heart over and over again.
Lara
Please don't make the same mistake as I.