Over a week ago I shared that my husband was stepping down as an elder last Wednesday.
Well, for all those inquiring minds that want to know, my husband's efforts were a TOTAL bust.
First he talked to one elder who adamantly refused to accept his resignation. He encouraged and demanded that he stay. My husband tried all kinds of advice that you lovely people gave . . .
That I needed spiritual attention as his wife, so they assigned me a pioneer. That he was depressed so the elders plan to meet with us now. They came to no real agreement on the resignation.
So my husband had an elder's meeting the following meeting. What happened? Well, they were very "loving" and "understanding." So they have allowed him to continue being an elder but removed all the responsibility of any obligation. No talks, no service hour quotas, he can miss meetings including elder's meetings, he can basically do whatever he wants. But he doesn't want to be an elder and he still is.
When we read some of your posts, we thought many were exaggerating about not being able to resign. However, we have realized it's VERY TRUE! The cong. we belong to has 8 elders I don't understand what the big deal is with letting one go.
I think we should start fading. But I believe we are being watched now. We would call too much attention. I can already see some of the others with "privileges" getting green with envy at husband for "kicking back."
We have the C/O visit this month. My husband intends on being forthright with the guy. This guy will NOT beat around the bush. My husband thins he should tell him that he has read the COC book I think this will get us DA'd. I'm really nervous about this whole thing. I think we should just fade; now regardless that he's still an elder.
We need advice . . . HELP!