Hi all, so I am getting married next year and just looking for some advice.
I left the Jw's about 10 years ago now and I am marrying a non JW (who is also a scientist) next year. My family are all still active and my brother has even agreed to be my best man. There hasn't really been many issues apart from my mum taking it upon herself to tell everyone early that they do not do toasts. She has also made sure my brother is aware that he can't do a toast which has just caused an issue that didn't need to be created.
Obviously my fiance's family don't really understand why and to be honest neither do I. I do remember never being allowed to do it but always thought it was stupid. I explained to my mum that no one really ever clinks glasses anymore it's just a simple gesture to congratulate the couple with no meaning behind it other than that.
I had a look on the ORG. website about toasting and as far as I can see, it doesn't give any valid explanation as to why they can't do it. It simply says, "we once quote in a watchtower the encyclopedia britanica 1910 that toasting was probably....etc etc.". IN my opinion the "probably" part really casts doubt and does not confirm anything. Basically it uses the same reasoning not to partake in this tradition as it does to say it's ok have wedding rings and other wedding traditions which were once pagan. (if that makes sense)
Anyway, I know the toasting/pagan nonsence is all old news but has anyone been in the same situation? if so, how did you deal with it? Also should I mix my JW family with all the non Jw's during dinner?
Any tips or advice would be most welcomed.