Just for the record, the elders harrasment and treatment of me (not for fading, but pre-fading over typical JW BS), is partially what has helped her see the light. In fact, most people think I no longer attend meetings because of the treatment, even thought it really wasn't. I could not have planned it better if i had done it on purpose!
My wife is still working through some things. Needless to say, she is about 70% there, and we are working on the rest.