"If they missed me so..why no phone calls or social activities prior to that? I see it now, but being a good little Dub is the condition to be accepted by anyone.--Elders can be very subtly condescending."
Reborn, now THERE'S a novel in a nutshell!
I had two "medical conditions" that were unrelated-but were both taking their toll on me despite ongoing tests, etc, I was really hurting. I had been in a wheelchair and on crutches-and was so tired ALL the time plus caring for an Autistic and ADHD youngster (who slept only 4-5 hours a night) and EITHER condition I was dealing with would have floored the BEST of'em........
And to have the "Shepherds" call, to REMIND ME that I REALLY needed to be "AT THE MEETINGS" and ask me to turn to Hebrews and read about "not forsaking the gathering of ourselves together"...of course I knew where they were headed with that "nudge".....
I could FEEL my anger rising, I was SO pissed at their total insensitivity, that I said "don't you think that if I could POSSIBLY be there, I'd BE there?" (No audible comment except, well-um-it's important to consider-um)
So THEN I got REAL bold and said,"Let me share a scripture with YOU....MY personal favorite", (eye contact between the Shepherds and affirmative nods) so I proceeded to nail'em with Psalm 145:16, where it says that He will open his hand and satify the desire of every living thing.......and THAT'S what MY hope relied upon.....(murmurs and nervous comments from the Shepherds)
I kind of commandeered the rest of the "shepherding call" (or dumped cold water on it) cuz I said I wasn't feeling well and was also supposed to get hubby's dinner ready--he'd be home in an hour.
Never got another (formal)Shepherding Call..............and STILL wondered why even an INVITATION to "social events" wasn't forthcoming?
It was obvious that they were only here to d-liver d-scriptures to get me to d-meetings......love and compassion had no voice in that "visit" to console and encourage.
Which reminds me....for those that still have the "Reasoning" book.......look up "Encouragement".......and LOOK at the propaganda that constitutes "encouragement"!
YES, I found Shepherding Calls extremely rude! (and THAT was only one!, LOL!)
Shredded families and ruined lives;
The WBTS has MUCH to answer for......