While headship has always been a problem in my marriage, partly because I'm more of a team player and my wife has man issues, now that I'm clearly fading my wife feels that I have nothing of worth to say.
I resist the idea of divorce but this is not much of a marriage. Since she doesn't/ can't hold down a job alimony would be ridiculously expensive. Cheaper to keep her, as they say.
I get zero cooperation or even discussion for any adjustments I feel might be in order for us as we grow older: obabmacare? "We don't need that. I favor alternative treatments." Downsizing? "I need space and it's a GOOD thing to have a mortgage on your home" saving for retirement? "They"ll be throwing their money into the streets, the bible says." end of discussion, no respect for my opinion, even though I am the one who is working to keep up this lifestyle.
She is an endless supply of American consumerism. Always needs something, just sits on the couch with her laptop ordering things off of the internet. It seems like I come home from work to find that the earnings for today are already gone.
I dread the day that we ever have to move out of our house, it's so full of stuff. I have a secret campaign going of getting rid of things, but I know I'm only scratching the surface.
And the real gut-wrencher is that I wonder whether, if I were a super-JW, would she be any different?
lastly, I'm not even "getting any" anymore!