by losingit 22 Replies latest members adult
Emotions are a must for they are what bond us .. E ..motion doing ....actions
Are you in a bond or a bind ?
when people say the want to be" happy" it means filling these emotional needs
A list of ten emotionally important things ....as report through studies
admiration,
affection,
conversation,
domestic support,
family commitment,
financial support,
honesty
openness,
physical attractiveness,
recreational companionship
sexual fulfillment
Caliber--
I really like that list. Something to periodically refer to when things seem to be going a bit askew. Clearly, it's for when you are in a "bond."
What about for a bind? What would be a part of that list? I guess, the opposite? Hmmmm....
The bind list...
I’d rather settle for him than be alone.
I’m comfortable.
I love him.
We’ve had sex.
We have a child together
I’m waiting until Mr. Right comes along
I don’t deserve any better
We’re engaged, already committed.
I don’t want to hurt his feelings.
He’ll change for the better
The law of E motion in the universe... for every action there is a reaction
if there is no action there is death.. when you stop moving you are dead !
If it feels great and doesn't hurt anybody, actually benefits another person too, then it's a great thing. Continue doing what you are doing!
If there is a god, I have no doubt that it would want humans to be happy over following a bunch of petty rules. Wouldn't you if you were the creatator?
Guilt is a useless emotion.
Guilt like pain fills a purpose .. to seek protection and relief,& avoid further harm
While guilt is seeing what you've done, shame is seeing yourself as a failure because of what you've done.
Happy to hear you are with someone who values you and appreciates you. Every woman needs a good man and there just doesn't seem to be enough of them to go around unfortunately.
Don't feel bad about yourself -
The Bible rules on sex and marriage are just to do with property contracts.
Joseph refused Potiphar' s wife because she was another man's possession. The stone age jews just adopted the same rules. (Is the story even true?)
You are not a chattel: YOu are a woman with feelings of love and sexuality, the Men who wrote those rules have been long dead. Enjoy your one and only life YOUR way, because you will be dead one day too.
Leave behind a legacy of your love for your man and your children. Stuff the Witchtower Babble and Trash Sickciety.
As I've pointed out before, brothers speaking from the platform love to point out that JWs are not prudes, as if they are claiming an intellectual and mature high ground. They then immediately go on to tell us all the things we are not supposed to do. Not to say that I disagree with some old-fashioned morals, but I think it's interesting that the only time we hear that statement about how JWs are not prudes, it precedes a lot of guilt-inducing information about what we are not supposed to do, often in explicit detail. You'd think that if they really weren't prudes, they would also occasionally dwell on the joys of sex or the ways that it allows a couple to show affection for each other. Instead they simply use it as a lead-in to a list of repressive statements.
Hamsterbait: Yes! I love what you wrote-- I want to LOVE and LIVE! It really is as simple as that. :-)
