removed post - thought better of it
I thought it was a bit harsh on Moshe
breaking up is hard to do
by fresh prince of ohio 23 Replies latest jw friends
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fresh prince of ohio
skygreen, i do love her on some levels.
And yes, i'm needy too, i'm well aware of my own flaws LOL.
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fresh prince of ohio
Lisa, a bit harsh, when you don't know the full story.
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Mum
You will only create more misery for both of you if you continue this relationship. Work on finding someone who is right for you.
Is she a JW? Are you?
Find a reason that she will accept to end it, as soon as possible.
Talk to a mental health professional to get some tips on how to do what you must do.
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StoneWall
All that you need to know is in this short clip from Neil Sedaka
Heck its even entitled "Breaking up is hard to do"
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moshe
Many women want to look for a new boyfriend while they are out on a date - that's right, they play a game.. They can scope out the guys , show off on the dance floor and when their date goes to the bathroom they flirt and get a phone number. I knew she was doing that- (guys talk), but it didn't bother me. I wasn't going to marry her- maybe she thought I would get jealous and change my mind. When I met the woman I knew was right for me, I asked her to marry me after six weeks of dating--- we have been married 12 years now.
I suppose the Internet dating sites make it easy to find a new relationship, before you leave the old one.- what is it called- plenty of fish or plenty of fools.com?
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Captain Obvious
WHY the hell are you doing this to her? At what point did you think maybe you should see yourself at a crossroads? You're already settling for her, it'll show in your relationship. You resent her already. Love isn't like that. Love isn't all storybook stuff, but it's REAL. When you meet the right girl, you want everyone to know! You are always thinking of new ways to impress her or spoil her. You treat her like a queen, and she treats you like a king because that's what you are to her. Before I married my lady, I had NO plans to settle down anytime soon. With the right girl, you can't wait to settle down. At the time I could have written a book about what I love about her and why I was marrying her. Now some years down the road I could write you a damn encyclopaedia full of reasons why mine is the best lady. THAT'S what love is like.
I'm not sure what you don't like about this girl... Is she not attractive? Not very bright? Lazy? Don't forget you must take the good with the bad. Don't be a Jerry Seinfeld now... (But she had man hands...)
Here's some real advice. Hit the Internet, read up on game. Get yourself some game, it will benefit you forever. Also, immediately break up with this girl. Give her the "it's not you, it's me" speech a la George Costanza. Sign up at your local gym, hit the gym. Go buy some new clothes. You've been doing well, treat yourself and upgrade the wardrobe. What do you drive? The new BMWs are nice. Are you balding? Shave that shit.
Now sign up on a couple of online dating sites and make a profile. Nothing crazy, just the real you. Meet some girls, date around a bit. Get a feel for what you really want, and for ways you can improve in a relationship. When you meet the right girl, you'll know.
Don't thank me, just do it. You're not getting any younger.
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cobaltcupcake
You've been given a lot of advice. I'll just say I wish you well and hope you find the love you deserve.
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LouBelle
This is my thing...I will not settle for anything than what I know I deserve. I do not need to be loved by another person to feel loved. The person that gets involved with me will be someone that I see adds to my life and it would be a conscious decision to let them in. I don't want mediocracy and I'm alright with life if I don't find that special someone, because I know what I'm worth.
I find it disturbing, but understandable to some degree why people stay with someone they may not necessarily want to be with 1) habit 2) beats being alone *shrug* Those aren't good enough reasons - but that's just me.
Lou - happy being single until a good bloke come along and if he doesn't - still happy.
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out4good3
Succintly put....
You really don't want her......
but, you don't want anyone else to have her either......