Since You Were In A Cult Do You Consider Yourself Still Dysfunctional?

by minimus 27 Replies latest jw friends

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  dazed but not confused

  dys·func·tion·al

  /dis'f?NGkSH?nl/ Adjective

  1. Not operating normally or properly.
  2. Deviating from the norms of social behavior in a way regarded as bad.

  No. Quite the opposite. I felt out of place and didn’t know it as a JW. I always felt bad for the things I did, felt and thought. Now I realize how dysfunctional I was because of the org. Now I know I was a normal human with normal thoughts and feelings and the organization made me out to feel like a monster. Fuck their dysfunctionality. I hate their unbelievable negativity toward the rest of the world and it’s inhabitants. The JW's are a blackhole of dysfunctonality.... if thats even a word...

  Now I feel normal, a normal contributing member of society.
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  clarity

  Well I guess it is two steps forward and one back,

  for the most part.

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  Just when I think things are getting stable ... I'm wrong!

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  But overall, I feel tremendous growth & congruence within myself.

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  It is so much easier to walk with our EYES opened, isn't it?

  So the answer is ...hell yes!

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  Tik........"No friends, no family, living alone. Suicidal thinking. And I left in 1995."

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  AAwwwww I am sincerely sorry .... been there too

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  Haven't seen your story posted on here yet ..how about it,

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  Maybe we could help you more. Plse take care of yourself,

  you are not alone

  clarity
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  minimus

  Thanks for your thoughts. I do not feel dysfunctional at this point. But I do believe that anyone that ever was in a cult was at one time or another messed up.
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  Sheep2slaughter

  Yes but I'm still awesome. So are all of you screwy "apostates" too!
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  Aussie Oz

  No, I function just fine. never been more functional as a human being than now.

  Oz
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  Pickler

  Yes I'm dysfunctional, but it's pretty well hidden - most people would never tell from my outside appearance how deeply messed up I am. I always felt like a naturally worldly person stuck in the religion. Now I'm out, I know I'm different from most non JWs.

  Its Hard to trust people, make friends, or keep friends. I let people go, don't know how to handle any kind of conflict. Worry about things a lot.

  I'm in the middle of making a huge mess of my own life at the moment, but, I know I'm a good parent, so that's something.

  im sorry Tik, message me if you want a friend to chat or whine to!
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  d

  I am still akward myself in terms of handling conflict and social skills.I stil feel paranoid at times as well.
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  Phizzy

  It took a good therapist to sort me out, that's what decades in a high-control, mind-control cult does.

  I still am honing some skills never learned by JW's, like common sense reasoning. (Critical Thinking skills)

  I no longer feel that the JW life has any hold over me or affects my attitudes and feelings. I am fast qualifying as an XXJW.

  Off topic, it is snowing here in Kent, U.K