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AGuest - Thanks for taking the time to write a thoughtful and well-intentioned comment. However, I don't think asking the elder " how they can call themselves shepherds of God's sheep... while profaning HIS 'fast' " would serve my best interests at this point.
It's really not about doctrine. That's all window dressing. It's about control and obedience.
Let's review: It's a cult!
wha happened? - I'm hoping my genetic contribution to my kids kicks in too, and soon!
At the suggestion of Steven Hassan and several JWN members, I've been able to enlist the aid of some non-JW family members to maintain contact. It seems to be working a bit with one of my sons, not so much with the other. I'm optimistic, but still frustrated.
jgnat - I hope you're right. If you are then I've only got a little over a year to go. But I know that many here have waited much longer with no success.
whathappened - I keep hoping that my kids natural love for me would motivate them to seek me out, but so far it hasn't happened. Once, in a conversation with my therapist, he asked me what I had expected from my kids in my situation. (He's very familiar with JW shunning policy.) I said I thought my kids love for me would be stronger than the rules of this religion. I was wrong.
And it's so damn frustrating because I taught them these stupid rules! Once, I did get to make a point that I hope will make a difference to my youngest. When he asked me if I still believed I gave him this to think about:
Imagine yourself in the future. You're a father. You've taught your son something and later you realize you were wrong about it. What would you do? Allow your son to continue to believe something that you now know is not true, or would you tell him you were wrong and now know better?
He was quiet for a long time and never verbally responded. Hopefully it'll get him thinking!
I'm glad you shared your story here. I'm sorry about the trouble this cult has caused in your family. But it is heart-warming to know that you've at least found a way to make sure your grandson knows you and knows you love him. Well done!
wasblind - Thanks for the love! Here's some of the same back at you:
ABibleStudent - I haven't read Hassan's latest, but I have thoroughly read the first two. In fact I studied better than I ever studied a WT. They got the multiple highlighter treatment all the way around!
I understand your questions and concerns. They're good ones. I've considered all my options and have decided to try this. I don't know how it'll turn out, but at least I'm doing something. I can't do nothing, it's just not in me!
As for taking the activist route, I'm not interested in that. I don't want to try to change or reform the religion. I just don't care. If the GB wants to continue to believe their delusional little lies, that's fine by me. I simply want to get on with my life and make up for lost time. There were so many things I wanted to do but couldn't when I was in; I've got a good amount of life left and I intend to live it to the fullest extent possible.
For me, it's all about my kids. I taught them this and now I owe it to them to try and make it right. Ultimately, the must decide for themselves how to live, but it should be with complete information, not with the highly filtered, biased lies of the WTBTS.
BTW, I do send them letters, pictures and postcards from time to time to let them know I'm thinking of them, but I'm busy living too. "Weather is beautiful, wish you were here!"
Honeybucket - Yes, apparently JWs are not as "unified" as the WTBTS would have you believe. Unfortunately, my mileage is not the same as the woman you mentioned.
WinstonSmith - Thank you so much for the offer to vent. I'm sure I'll be taking you up on it. I am always very encouraged by the experiences of others on JWN that are trying to navigate our way out of this nightmare of a religion. Your comments and posts are helpful to me, sometimes if only as a mirror.
I know you're going through it too. The fact that we can come together for support and advice is amazing.
I said it before, but it bears repeating: I get more love and understanding from all the "evil apostates" here on JWN than I ever got from the self-righteous JWs that loudly go around telling everyone they're the only True Christians on Earth.
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Again, thank you all for your comments, suggestions, love and support. You're the best!