need advice!

by unstopableravens 24 Replies latest social family

  • unstopableravens

    mrsjones: it was easy to get him off his passy and he doesnt suck his thumb, i glad about that! kurt lol a cold shower hmm thats an option and manin the middle rewards may be good others just said the same so i may try that.

  • finally awake
    finally awake

    I've potty trained 3 boys - they didn't respond to the same techniques at all. Our oldest would hold his bowel movements as long as possible, leading to incredibly hard, large stools. We had to give him a suppository every 2 or 3 days to make him poop. He was good about peeing in the potty by the time he was 3 1/2, but we fought the poop problem for years. He's 13 and he still has issues.

    Our middle boy was potty trained in one day at about age 3 1/2, with virtually no daytime accidents after that, but he needed pull ups at night for a couple of years. We spent the whole day drinking koolaid and peeing in the potty, with cheering and dancing every time some one went. We even bought a male baby doll that took a bottle and peed in a little potty seat - they say teaching someone else is the best way to learn something for yourself.

    Our third child was not at all impressed by the potty party. He continued to have accidents and was not at all cooperative. He was finally sold on potty training through a bribe - I told him when he managed 2 solid months of no accidents, including at night, we'd go to Disney World. He improved immediately and qualified for the trip within 6 months. He was nearly 4 by that time.

    I think the moral of this story is that potty training is sometimes a real problem, and may take much longer than you anticipate.

  • unstopableravens

    finally awake can you give me the same deal? wow yeah every kid is so differnt! im be patient.

  • finally awake
    finally awake

    I hope you are already potty trained LOL so no trip to Disney for you!

  • unstopableravens

    but i want to

  • AGuest

    I would agree with dear Miz Josie, dear USR (peace to you, both!): some kids, especially boys, like to "make Mommy happy" and this sounds like a wonderful technique. I had no problem with my girl - she self-trained pretty much everything (would rip the diaper off once it was wet, so I thought, okay, enough of those!). But I used the same technique with my boy for potty training as I did for bottle training: I got all of the related paraphernalia (all Pampers, cloth diapers, pins, plastic pants, etc.)... let him watch me put them in a bag... then, holding him hand and taking him with me, put it all in the trash. Then I said, "Say bye-bye diddies! Bye-bye!" and waved at them in the trash.

    This time was easier; with the bottles he initially cried, "NOOOoooo, NO bye-bye!" but I held firm. "Yes, bye-bye bah-bah!" And he eventually got that I was serious and said good-bye. For the next couple/few days he would go and stand, looking in the trash (I guess to see if a bottle, nipple, or pacifier remained) but eventually he realized they were indeed gone.

    With the diapers, then, he knew they were. I caught him looking only once... but he knew they were gone, never to return. No choice but to use the toilet... or have a nasty load to deal with. He preferred the toilet, evidently.

    Some say let them take their time... and I agree that if you can DO that, you should. I was working full-time and needed him to potty train to get into pre-school, so I couldn't.

    I hope this helps and, again, peace to you!

    A slave of Christ,


  • tec

    My oldest was easy and pretty much trained himself, but my youngest refused to go on the potty. He was afraid of peeing in it, for some reason. Not of the potty, but of peeing in the potty. He knew when he had to go of course, at three, but he just would not go in that devil potty. I eventually did what experts say not to do, and that was sit him on the potty in front of the tv, and not let him up until he peed. Because it was all about fear for him and i didn't know how to erase that except to show him that nothing bad would happen. So he started tapping his feet (to stop himself from peeing). Then clapping his hands and tapping his feet. Then shaking his head, clapping his hands and tapping his feet.

    Then he peed.

    His eyes went wide. He froze. I encouraged him, told him see, nothing bad is happening. Then he peed the rest of the way and seemed kind of wondrous about the whole thing. I had to do it one more time with him (same day; next pee) so he could see that it wasn't a fluke or something, lol. Then never had an accident after that.

    It isn't really something I would recommend. I knew it would work for him, because i just needed to show him that nothing bad would happen, and then i knew he would be fine. (and yes, I tried all the stories about not being afraid, and all the tips that experts give, first. My son needed to SEE it for himself) All that being said, they do train at their own pace, and I would not stress over it. I never even started trying to potty train until he was three, unless he would have shown interest earlier, and he did not. My neice was four (hers was pure stubborness though, lol, like her dad)



  • unstopableravens

    thanks peace to you sisters: fun times!

  • zeb

    one of mine was near 5 .... The bit that hurt was all the 'advice' from those with 'perfect' children.

    The advice here is sound. The more you pressure him the worse it gets and this is not attitude on his part at all.

    he will get there. avisit to the doctor might help.

  • LouBelle

    I don't have my own child but my brother was like my own baby. He took to the potty really easy, no fuss what so ever. BUT when it came to his bottle, that was a different story. We threw it out and he went and got it out the trash - but eventually he threw it away himself. Each kid is unique and you've got to let them find their own way.

    Have fun with poo

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