Welcome to the board. Great advice already given. If I may add a suggestion, while you are fading I would spend extra quality time with your wife. If there is something that you both enjoy that would help you to be around non-JW's, try to get her involved in that. The more non-witness friends you have (as a couple) the easier it is to fade. Most JW's stay with it because of the social aspect, especially if you were raised in it.
There is also some great threads on getting your family out. One brother did it by means of the family study and asking questions. This would be a great opportunity for you to have a family study with your wife since you are "spirtually weak".
Good luck.