I know cofty, that doesn't appeal to me either.
The problem is not religion or not religion, beligerant atheits can be as much of a problem, and wouldn't be nice to live where they were the majority if you were a believer. At the end is a question of respect to the individual. When determining if a religion is damaging to individuals, we can ask if it dignifies them or if it disempowers them or worse? And within the religion is people allowed to keep their freedom of conscience and freedom of speech? Are they allowed to decide for themselves in personal matters without fearing being marked? Do they need to be afraid as if they were living under a police-state system?
Maybe the best way to judge a group is to see how they treat the people that don't agree with them.