I'm so sorry. There is very little that can be done, unless you are willing to submit---even passively---to the WT masters. She is probably taking the 'spiritual endangering' out. JW's can only divorce for adultery. Even if a legal divorce is obtained, scripturally they still consider themselves married. However there are 3 accepted reasons to separate---even if this is done through divorce (which won't be scriptural).
Spiritual Detriment: If the spouse's activities seriously threaten your dedication to the GB. I'd say to god, but we all know that's not true.
Willful nonsupport: Since it is the husband's role to provide the financial security to his family, if he willfully refuses to do this.
AND extreme abuse: And this must be extreme. The occasional black eye doesn't qualify, but some have ingeniously parlayed this to include emotional abuse.
In the end, they always do what they want anyway, and find a way to justify it. I don't mind. It's how it should be. But it's just their self-righteous attitude that makes it grate.
You may be moving on to phase two. If you don't reconcile, and this ends in divorce, prepare to be stalked. She will want to know who you have sex with and when. Only by you committing fornication will she obtain her scriptural divorce and be free to remarry. So prepare yourself. You may choose to just tell her you've found someone, and be done with it. But if you withhold the info, or there is no info to share, she will be watching! How is THAT for an aphrodisicac? Knowing that an ex-spouse is watching your home from a car all night, with at least one witness?
NC