by Cirkeline 36 Replies latest watchtower bible
Thank you Zid.
Loved the similarity of growing roses - de-brainwashing people. It takes time, and one needs to take the right steps at the right time.
I wrote her yesterday. Cant wait for the answer. Will keep you updated. Can't appreciate enough this possibility to discuss, and get advice from people who knows exactly what its all about!
Update on my situation:
OMG I am so happy!!!!!! My eldest daughter is definetely wide awake now, and tonight I got a message from her telling me that her husband also is ready to take the blinkers off. He wants to read COC, and I will surly bee happy to hand it over to him. She told me they are now using their "family-study nght" searching websites like freeminds, jwfacts, jwstruggle etc for arguments against the jv-doctrines!!!! It has been the pain worth going back undercover I now dare to think that my youngest will follow. But that lays in the future. She is still happily blinded. 50% success so far!
Thank you Randall Watters, Jwfacts, Cedars and all you beautifull people on this board!
FANTASTIC news!!!! I'm so happy for you Cirkeline
This is great news! For the sake of us who give advice to others, would you say our advice to go slow and carefully helped? Any other tips for those of us with hope for our loved-ones?
Jgnat: Yes, going slowly and carefully is crucial. I would like to compare to a severe starving child. You have to start very gentle with the food.....teaspoons for meals in the start, or it will simply die. That is very important.
Then trying to appeal to common sence and encurraging her to do her own research to be sure of what she stood for. I think that got to her.
And then being patient and take all the rant and scolding that comes without being upset or doing the same back. We e-mailed quite alot while I was out. She was very angry with me, and I let her get it out, everything, taking everything she said/wrote serious, putting myself into her shoes and very slowly I could feel she was ready to listen to my arguments. She felt safe and comfortable. That is maybe the most important part.
And I actually think that the fact that I da'd myself forced her to think alot about the shunning policy and the consequencies of it. Maybe she got "disturbed" enough to get her mind ready to think out of the box. I do not know. I will ask her what made her change her mind about the religion when things get more safe and stable.
Congratulations and well done, Cirkeline!
Just a suggestion from someone who didn't go slow enough. . . if your eldest daughter is through the defensive and angry stages, she may be ready to help others wake up. If so, does she know she'll also have to go slowly with her younger sister?
YAAAAAHOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So very happy to hear about your success story. I will bet that your daughter will help "escort" your younger daughter right out also. It will be difficult for your younger daughter to ignore what has happened with you and her sister.
Thanks for the update and keep us posted.
That is very encouraging, thanks for sharing that!
That is great news! I hope it continues to go well. And if you're lurking on this board reading this thread, "Liv", welcome into the light!
