How Many Out There Have to Hide or Be Stealthy When They Visit This Site? I know I do.

by PaintedToeNail 42 Replies latest jw friends

  • breakfast of champions
    breakfast of champions

    OUTLAW - LOL! That was funny.

  • PaintedToeNail

    balthar447-That is exactly what I should do. He would die of embarassment. He is very straight laced, he has been since he was a little kid, no thanks to me-I tend to be outrageous.

  • finally awake
    finally awake

    The first few days I was lurking here I was careful to do it in stealth mode and I kept a different tab open so I could switch over if the kids or the husband got nosy. Now, I leave it up and logged in all the time. There's a password on the screensaver to keep the kids off my computer though.


    Living under the Floor of JWN with Oriental People isn`t easy..

    I`m begining to think there`s something Wong with me..


  • Morbidzbaby

    I used to have to be careful because I was on a public PC for the longest time. I was always looking over my shoulder because I lived in a heavily JW-populated area (5 congregations within 10 miles).

    When I was married, I used to visit a different site (that my ex wouldn't approve of because of some of the topics) and I had to be VERY careful because that's where I went to vent anonymously. I talked about my marriage, the JW's and how much I was coming to hate the religion, etc. Come to think of it, I had to be careful no matter what I was looking at because he was such a tight-ass. Like your husband, mine took to coming in at all hours of the night to see what I was up to. Funny story: He used to just walk up behind me and stand there with his arms crossed waiting for me to say something or turn around. After he did that a bunch of times, I started ignoring him. No way was I playing his little control game! So when I was visiting a boyfriend a few years ago, I couldn't sleep so I was online...he came up and stood in the hallway and just waited for me to turn around. Old habits die hard, and I completely ignored him LOL. He was butthurt over it, though. The next morning he was all grumpified and I had to explain why I had ignored him. But yeah, my ex was a complete prude and was trying to monitor what I was doing online. What the hell makes these JW men think they OWN us?? I couldn't watch what I wanted, read what I wanted, listen to music that I wanted...they all had to be approved by him or I had to be a friggin' sneak, which I HATE. Imagine my surprise when I came home and caught him whacking off and watching porn!

    However, I did "clean up after myself" when I was done on the PC. I installed a program called deletes pretty much everything you've done. That really helped because then there was no trail for the sites I visited, therefore, no evidence that I was venting about things.

    Now it's a few years later and I have my own laptop and BF has his PC. I go on whatever sites I want (*cough* even porn), he doesn't care what I do online. Once in awhile he'll ask what I'm up to as a way to make conversation. Or he'll show me stuff on his PC and I'll show him stuff on my laptop. He knows I come here. He knows it's therapeutic at times. He really couldn't care less what I do online. But I know what it's like to have to hide and be sneaky. It makes you feel so dirty!

  • ex360shipper

    Get a cheap tablet. I just bought a Kindle Fire and it works just fine on this site. Its only 200 bucks and has plenty of great ways to waste time on it too.

  • lilbluekitty

    I was sneaky with this site (and others) at first only because my husband has never been an JW (he's a Christian) and I had been very into the JW stuff for awhile and I didn't want him to know I was having doubts but eventually I just told him and he didn't bat an eyelash. If I was living with my mother still though I would have to be pretty careful deleting my history and stuff, but at least she let me have the computer in my room so I could close the door and if she opened it I'd have time to close the page at least.

    I think in your case, just tell them you're looking at something embarassing, like say you think you're having a female problem and are looking it up. "I need a little privacy, do you mind?" and smile and try to blush. That's what I would do anyway, with the husband that is. Not sure if that would help you or if you would feel too much like you were lying.

  • PaintedToeNail

    MorbidZ-I wouldn't say my hubby is controling, but he is controled by the WTBS. We have had discussions and he basically agrees with just about everything I say, but...he is so indoctrinated from before birth, that he can't see beyond it or life without it. I hate to upset him anymore than he is, he cries because "I won't be there in the New System".

  • paladin

    I have to keep shoulder checking. My wife does not care about web sites like JWN. I even have to shoulder check when i'm outdoors because I live in an area with many elders. When I think about it i feel sick. No freedom.

  • PaintedToeNail

    Paladin-I truly feel your pain, I do the same thing all the time, but thankfully, there are no elders lurking about near me.

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