I am still coming to terms with everything JW and the one that I am having a really hard time with is when my husband had his second major heart attack.
It was a Tuesday morning and that night was a our school and service meeting. My husband was the school overseer. After his first major heart attack his fellow body of elders had him right back up the next week conducting. I was getting ready for work when the place where he work called me telling me they were rushing him to the hospital and he was having major chest pains.
I threw on some cloths and grabbed the phone list for the hall and left. The first person I wanted to call was the PO COBE so if by some chance they did let my husband out of the hospital he would not conduct that night. The PO is hard to reach at work and all I got was his cell voice mail. So I called his home and his wife answered. Now mind you I was driving and talking on my phone at the same time not know what conduction my husband is in just that he is having a major heart attack.
I never, never, never call the PO or his wife they keep to themselves in the hall. They have six kids who are in their mid teens to early 30' and the wife only talks to her kids at the meetings. In many ways it is truly rude the wat she will huddle with her daughters before and after the meetings and that is all she usually ever speaks to. The wife is also a pioneer who brags about all the Bible studies she has and how much Jehovah is blessing her, yad, yad, yad. How she always wanted to me a missionary but the kids started to come and she always regretted never full feeling her dream. OK that one I always felt was selfish. I wanted kids to but I listened to the FS and went where the need was great then to Bethel. There is a thing called birth control that she could have used. Anywho getting back to my speaking to her on the phone while I was driving to the hospital with my husband having a heart attack. Her first words to me were WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO DO? I said just tell your husband when you can. She said I CANT NOT GET A HOLD OF HIM HE IS AT WORK! Now mind you I am driving and extremely upset, I never just out of the blue call this woman this is truly an emergency. She repeats again that she CAN NOT GET A HOLD OF HER HUSBAND! And again asks what I want her to do for me?
I was just blown away with her, it was clear that I was bothering her and she just wanted me OFF THE PHONE! So I tried to be calm and said at some point today will you speak to your husband right? She said yes. I said at that point could you please tell him my husband is having a major heart attack and that he will not be at the meeting to conduct the school so your husband needs to find someone to fill in.
Now this is where she truly hurt me. She said WELL I CANNOT HELP YOU AS I HAVE TO GO OUT IN SERVICE!!!!!!!!!!!!! I felt like I had been rebuked and slapped in the face. She was clearly talking to me as if I were a simple minded child and I was really, really bothering her. At the time I did feel bad that I had called her, I felt that I was in the wrong. This happened in 2007 and until I found this board in late 2008, in the back of my mind I felt I had been the one who had been rude for bothering her by calling her.
She never came up to the hospital, never called me on the phone to ask how I was doing, even though my husband was in ICU for three days. I never heard a peep from her. After he was back conducting the school the NEXT WEEK she never came up to me at the meeting just huddled in a ball with her daughters like she always did.
Trying to convert strangers to her religion is more important the helping her sister in the truth when she calls with a major problem. I now realize that I was not in the wrong for calling her but like I said for years in the back of my mind I have felt I was wrong.
This religion is just so unloving it is just sick, that is all there is to it.
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