Thanks everyone so much. Nugget, you give some great points. And garyneal 'your boyfriend needs to grow a spine' Haha it's funny cos it's true - however I am able to say ha ha instead of whaa whaa because he has actually admitted this also and finally sees that playing the middle man and the peace keeper is not the way to go! It's only taken 12 years, but hey, better late than never :)
The funny thing is - the bro and his wife actually let us sleep in the same room at their place. They didn't for a while, but I had a bit of a heart to heart with her about beliefs and mutual respect and all that and I said that we are pretty much married in our eyes - and will be in the laws (and God's if you play that game) eyes one day anyway and we are not together as a 'trial thing', and I respect their beliefs and if they allow us to sleep in the same room, I would respect that deeply and give my word we would never have any sex (true!!) Sounds funny, but anyway, we have a more honest and healthy relationship now, and although I see her and her husband give each other 'looks' sometimes when I say something or other, they don't make me feel too uncomfortable and I can pretty much be myself.
The parents on the other hand, quite different. The funny thing is - they don't really preach to me and don't make any comments to me specific to my beliefs, but sometimes passing comments are made which I feel are a little bit loaded - and I never know how to react to those. I also don't know for sure that they blame me for the son leaving, but it's just a feeling I get and although I may be wrong, I want it cleared up once and for all.
By the way in regards to the law - I'm in Australia, so in the eyes of the law we are de-facto, pretty much married as far as rights go.
I like the idea of 'Stumbled' and will think about how I can use that without them thinking I am trying to bee a smart a$$ :)
Also, I would never be rude in their house, and I do respect their ways in their home, I pray with them for meals etc. I'm just sick of feeling like the second class couple I spose...
Back to beliefs - can anyone comfirm that they really did pray to Jesus prior to 1950!?
And don't worry, I would never ever bother getting into a discussion of beliefs with these people - including the false prophecies, the child abuse, the changed doctrines etc. (Although the blood one offends me quite a lot. I needed a blood transfusion as a baby - before I was able to make up my own mind... If my parents were Witnesses, I'd be dead which i think is just so so unfair. If adults want to refuse blood, that's their call, but for kids it's just wrong)