if you're not having meaningful INTERACTIONS with the JW you're trying to rescue, don't expect any results.
I could not agree with you more, Donny. Without interaction there can be no meaningful dialogue. Without dialogue there can be no understanding and without understanding there can be no results. My greatest failing throughout the years has been my inability to dialogue with my wife about the Watchtower without getting impatient, frustrated or angry. As a consequence, whenever the elephant was addressed my wife braced herself. She raised her defenses, dug in her heels and closed her mind - which had the inevitable result of me getting impatient, frustrated or angry. It was a vicious cycle that went on for more than 30 years. If I am honest with myself, and if there is blame to be apportioned for whatever unhappiness we've had between us, the lion's share belongs to me. Had I been loving and patient from the outset it is entirely plausible that I would not be here in this forum today.