Here is an excellent quote from Dr Sears (http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/discipline-behavior/spanking/10-reasons-not-hit-your-child) that helped me to see that the WTBTS are making excuses to condone smacking (and worse). Eph 6:4 and Col 3:21, which I've highlighted below would be good scriptures to quote to anyone at the KH who speaks judgementally about it.
HITTING IS ACTUALLY NOT BIBLICAL
Don't use the Bible as an excuse to spank. There is confusion in the ranks of people of Judeo-Christian heritage who, seeking help from the Bible in their effort to raise godly children, believe that God commands them to spank. They take "spare the rod and spoil the child" seriously and fear that if they don't spank, they will commit the sin of losing control of their child. In our counseling experience, we find that these people are devoted parents who love God and love their children, but they misunderstand the concept of the rod.
Rod verses - what they really mean. The following are the biblical verseswhich have caused the greatest confusion:
"Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him." (Prov. 22:15)
"He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him." (Prov. 13:24)
"Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death." (Prov. 23:13-14)
"The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to itself disgraces his mother." (Prov. 29:15)
At first glance these verses may sound pro-spanking. But you might consider a different interpretation of these teachings. "Rod" (shebet) means different things in different parts of the Bible. The Hebrew dictionary gives this word various meanings: a stick (for punishment, writing, fighting, ruling, walking, etc.). While the rod could be used for hitting, it was more frequently used for guiding wandering sheep. Shepherds didn't use the rod to beat their sheep - and children are certainly more valuable than sheep. As shepherd-author Philip Keller teaches so well in A Shepherd Looks At Psalm 23, the shepherd's rod was used to fight off prey and the staff was used to gently guide sheep along the right path. ("Your rod and your staff, they comfort me." – Psalm 23:4).
Jewish families we've interviewed, who carefully follow dietary and lifestyle guidelines in the Scripture, do not practice "rod correction" with their children because they do not follow that interpretation of the text.
The book of Proverbs is one of poetry. It is logical that the writer would have used a well-known tool to form an image of authority. We believe that this is the point that God makes about the rod in the Bible – parents take charge of your children. When you re-read the "rod verses," use the concept of parental authority when you come to the word "rod," rather than the concept of beating or spanking. It rings true in every instance.
While Christians and Jews believe that the Old Testament is the inspired word of God, it is also a historical text that has been interpreted in many ways over the centuries, sometimes incorrectly in order to support the beliefs of the times. These "rod" verses have been burdened with interpretations about corporal punishment that support human ideas. Other parts of the Bible, especially the New Testament, suggest that respect, authority, and tenderness should be the prevailing attitudes toward children among people of faith.
In the New Testament, Christ modified the traditional eye-for-an-eye system of justice with His turn-the-other-cheek approach. Christ preached gentleness, love, and understanding, and seemed against any harsh use of the rod, as stated by Paul in 1 Cor. 4:21: "Shall I come to you with the whip (rod), or in love and with a gentle spirit?" Paul went on to teach fathers about the importance of not provoking anger in their children (which is what spanking usually does): "Fathers, do not exasperate your children" (Eph. 6:4), and "Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will be discouraged" (Col. 3:21).
In our opinion, nowhere in the Bible does it say you must spank your child to be a godly parent.
Hitting anyone does not show respect. I am not at all suprised that this MS has lost respect for his parents after the disrespect they've shown him over the years.
How on earth can beating your child help your child to cultivate any of the fruits of the spirit?
I'm with the MS on this one. I was beaten as a JW kid, sometimes at the KH - smacked at the back of the hall, taken outside and smacked (bearing I mind I'd have my dress lifted up so my father could inflict sufficient pain on the backs of my legs and my buttocks to teach me a lesson), or sometimes with a rolled up WT or a Bible across the knuckles whilst seated in full view of the cong! I learned from a very young age to sit very still and not attract any attention to myself. Outwardly I looked well-behaved, but the reality was that I'd literally been beaten into submission and quickly lost my normal, childish exuberance and as a result I'm quite stunted socially as an adult because people think I'm aloof. When I got out at 19, I spent several years feeling a lot of anger about my upbringing. My father has apologised but it took my parents' compassionate actions when I was going through a messy divorce from a violent husband (repercussions of the beatings and the cult mentality meant I put up with severe beatings from him for 6 years) for them to finally earn my respect.
