Get a copy of the Awake with the children who died from blood transfusions.
Then tell them that their daddy is in "a cult that is run by bad men who are happy when they can fool children into dying even though it makes God very sad."
How Do I 'Come Out' To My Kids?
by headisspinning 23 Replies latest jw friends
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jamiebowers
You agreed to the current custody arrangement under duress, because you were still cult mind controlled at the time. If you can't get full custody, then at least reinforce the 50/50 arrangement. Then cultivate independent thinking and self-confidence in your kids with unconditional love.
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the max
My Mum was a Scottish Prodestant, My father an Irish catholic, they raised us nuetral, that should be the ideal scenario for you, how realistic that proposistion is for you, I dont know.
As it happens I am in agreement with you, however, strict nuetrality or as close as you can get to that point, wont do any of you any harm.
Your kids should be not forced to pick and choose, between either parents choice of religious beliefs.
futhermore your kids will discuss this at some point, without you or you husband being privvy to this, if your ex does the bullyboy JW stuff whilst you insist on nuetrality and are measured and put their intrests first, they shoul be abe to discern your genuine concern for them. Try no matter how temtingDO NOT to play the( short game ) by scoring cheap points now, let things go nuetral, and gain your children by consistently putting them first.
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nugget
My advice is to sound them out first. They have been through a lot recently with adults telling them stuff and them hearing things of an upsetting nature it would be a pleasant surprise if adults actually asked them what they were thinking and feeling.
Keep it simple and direct tell them you love them and miss them. Say that you appreciate that this is a difficult time and that you are sorry if they are feeling caught in the middle. You thought that you might return to the meetings but after the recent assembly you feel that this would just prolong the stress for everyone so you are taking time away to allow things to calm down and to relieve some of the stress. Ask them if they have any questions or concerns.
at every stage give them an opportunity to express themselves. Ask them how they are getting on and how they are finding the meetings? This is an opportunity to let them speak and on the basis of what they say you can adapt your response. The important thing right now is to listen.