when the fears start coming out of him I can pacify him with real encouragement. "They are gonna have to go through me first."
If I said that to my kids they would laugh out loud and ask for someone a bit harder
"You wouldn't question the creator of all things, would you?"
by sabastious 20 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
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Heaven
A hellion named Heaven, I like it.
Misdirect then pounce!
I am a nice person but I learned long ago to establish boundaries and to defend them. If you don't you get walked all over. There are people in this world that want to push those boundaries. They need to learn there is no moving them and that if they try they will receive negative results.
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sabastious
If I said that to my kids they would laugh out loud and ask for someone a bit harder
If they are laughing, mission accomplished, they aren't scared anymore. :)
-Sab
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sabastious
I am a nice person but I learned long ago to establish boundaries and to defend them. If you don't you get walked all over. There are people in this world that want to push those boundaries. They need to learn there is no moving them and that if they try they will receive negative results.
Well said!
-Sab
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AGuest
Abraham questioned God, dear Sab (peace to you!)... as did Moses (and Job, as dear PSacto - peace to you! - pointed out). MANY, including his disciples, questioned Christ. And there were no repurcussions for doing so.
The WT treats it's members very much like children afraid of the dark.
Yet, isn't that what most of them are?
To promise one's child that one will always protect them is... folly. One can only try; however, unforeseen circumstances can befall us all. And one may not always be with that child when danger arises. To promise them that God will always protect them... as to their flesh... is an error. That would mean that He would never allow the "hedge" to be removed, even at the challenge of the Adversary. Which absolutely isn't true.
One should only promise what one can do... and that is their "best." And one should endeavor to DO their best... especially when it comes to their children. To promise more than that is really kind of lying to one's children... and may in fact come back and "bite" the one who so promised ("But you PROMISED!"). Many's the child who loses all faith in and respect for a parent who didn't make good on their "promises."
Peace!
A slave of Christ,
SA
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sabastious
Yet, isn't that what most of them are?
It would seem so.
-Sab
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serenitynow!
Jehovah will protect him.
That's a big fat lie. Hasn't Jehovah historically "allowed" lots of "his people" to endure hardships, up to and including death? Maybe your brother should have said Jehovah would protect him, if he feels like it. I hate that I wasted so much time praying, never an answer; never any protection for me and my family from horrible things and real-life monsters. If your brother had reinforced the idea that he is there to protect the boy from bad things, that probably would have calmed him.
And the WTS must have your brother so brainwashed that he has literally forgotten that Jehovah was questioned in the bible.
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Cold Steel
Hmmm. I wonder why he is fearful to begin with? Is it because they've filled his head with demon stories? Shouting "Jehovah" three times is the standard way to stave off night demons (and elephants), but why are the Jehovah's Witnesses so preoccupied with Jehovah when the New Testament is so Christ-centered? It is in the name of Christ that the church operated -- and the ancient church was so radically different that the Jehovah's Witnesses that one should be, instead, trying to discover why.
Do the JWs ever read the Bible anymore?? Back in the 70s they did. But nowdays, they seem only to have memorized the scriptures that come with the conversion book they use.
But getting back to the matter at hand, why is the 4-year old so terrified at night? Haven't the parents heard of night lights? In another couple of years, buy the kid a revolver and tell him to shoot anything that moves after beddie bye.
Seriously, this isn't the only child to fear the dark. Find out the reason he's so fearful. The way the JWs discuss demons may very well be the reason. Do the parents watch scary movies in the child's presence? (When I was four, my grandmother kept me out of the basement by telling me about the rats. Big rats. Big teeth, and they could give you rabies. It worked. The rats stayed downstairs and I stayed upstairs. It worked out well for both of us and has to until this day.)
White noise machines also work well.
Years ago, I met a woman whose son (four) saw things at night. People. They had auras of varying colors. These people did not seem menacing and the child described them in incredible detail. At first I wrote it off as imagination, but then the mother told me that her mother had described the same things when she was about four. These people she saw had beautiful auras of gold, green, blue, yellow, etc., and they, too, seemed neither menacing or unhuman. Some would occasionally stop and smile, but then move on. As the grandmother became older, the experiences went away and never returned. She never lived to tell them to her grandson, nor did the mother ever mention it.
We don't know about such mysteries, but I sent our minister over to see the woman. He was a decent guy and later told me that he had discussed the incidents with the boy. He said there weren't any drops in temperature, hair going up the back of the neck -- things that accompanied more sinister things. What he was seeing, if anything, is beyond me, but I'm convinced there are things in life, and in the mind, that are beyond our understanding. The best bet is to treat the problem as simply as possible; and screaming "Jehovah" isn't my idea of a workable solution.
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watersprout
Babysprout is terrified of the dark! Monsters are coming to get her and the dark invites them in! On an evening she refuses to go to the bathroom unless someone goes with her...The way i found to put a stop to it was to tell her this....''There is no such things as monsters and the only monster you need to be scared of is MEEEE, without any make up on!''...Babysprout cocked her head and looked me up and down and said ''Thats true you are quite frightening without makeup''...Since then no problems! I just have to be careful not to sneak around in the dark with no makeup on! LOLOLOL
We also leave the landing light on for her with her door opened a little so the light shines through. That keeps her calm if she wakes in the night from a nasty dream.
Peace and light
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Heaven
It's usually a phase kids go through . I was afraid of the dark at that age. My Mom would leave the light on in my room. Kids grow out of it. Unfortunately, night terrors will probably be a part of this kids entire life until he learns that the religion he was brought up in is bogus.