Does Sexual Activity Of Others Affect Your View Of A Person?

by minimus 45 Replies latest jw friends

  • JeffT
    JeffT

    Min,

    Your title says "sexual activity" the post says "orientation." There is a world of difference in my book. I do not care if some is straight or gay or bi.

    I care a LOT if they are an adulterer or a pedophile. Adultery doesn't effect me personally, but I can't trust such a person. Pedos are one group of people that cause me to question my opposition to the death penalty.

  • Think About It
    Think About It

    YES.......I'm anti-pedophile and proud of it!!!

    Think About It

  • minimus
    minimus

    I said "sexual activity". My mom freaked when I told her doctor was a homosexual and wanted to change docs because he was not heterosexual. The THOUGHT of him engaging in homosexual ACTIVITY truly bothered her. I convinced her that it meant nothing.

  • minimus
    minimus

    OBVIOUSLY , I'm NOT talking about pedophiles or people who are into animals, etc.!!!!

  • notverylikely
    notverylikely

    Absolutely. If they are lazy in bed, why would they try hard at work? Are the creative, an out of the box thinker, is there follow through, ? All important questions.

  • aSphereisnotaCircle
    aSphereisnotaCircle

    I had a business associate once that turned kinda social for a while. But he liked to brag a lot about his conquests, and he always pursued married women, and he really seemed to get a kick out of going behind another mans back.

    I gave him the benfit of the doubt for a while because I was newly exited form the org and I was pretty clueless. But it didn't take long before i couldn't stand it, and I cut off all contact with him, social and business.

    Thats the only time I can think of.

  • seawolf
    seawolf

    Only if they're having sex with someone other than me.

  • Markfromcali
    Markfromcali

    Does Sexual Activity Of Others Affect Your View Of A Person?

    Of course, it's a simple question of line of sight. If they're between me and the person I am trying to see and going at it no less, it tends to be distracting if nothing else. Of course, there is a good chance there are mirrors in the immediate environment and I may be able to see the person that way.

  • serenitynow!
    serenitynow!

    Yes, sometimes. I had a worldly friend I hadn't known her long, she called me and bragged about having "fooled around" (which for her could have meant anything from making out to oral) with more than one man on more than one occasion that she had met on a porn site. She invited these men to her home that she shared with her elderly mom, men she didn't know. I was flabbergasted. My main issue with it was her lack of concern for her and her mom's physical safety. She didn't think it was any big deal to invite an internet man she just met on a porno site to her home in the middle of the night to engage in god knows what. I asked her if she was drunk, hoping that she was, but she was completely sober. This was around the time of the Craigslist Killer. It made me feel sad for her, cause I think she has low self esteem and concern for my own well being around her, because she's obviously not street smart.

    And she told me that at a bar in NY on new year's eve, she made out with some guy while at the same time another random guy was fondling her nethers. Once again, she was proud. I advised her not to tell anyone else that story.

    And once when we were at a bar, she was the designated driver, I was supposed to spend the night at her house if I needed to. At the bar, we ran into a male aquaintance of hers she was hot for, and his friend. At closing time- when we were in the parking lot of the bar, she decided she wanted to leave with the guy. In Detroit you can't just hail a taxi and get home. At 2 AM, I was tipsy and about to be stranded in a not good part of town. Anyway, his friend offered to take me to my car. I didn't know this guy from Adam, neither did my stupi. d friend but she was like, "oh he can take you home."I was so scared. Anyway he drove me to my car. I was so thankful he didn't rape and kill me, he could have easily if he had wanted to. Actually this incident happened before the first two.

    I eventually had to stop being friends with her d/t these incidents and some other stuff. She was toxic.

    So yes, sometimes a person's sexual activity can affect my view of them.

  • minimus
    minimus

    Serenity, in this type of person, I can see why you would be cautious.

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