In case anyone's interested but unaware of my family's case up to this point, here's the original thread:
So the elders requested a follow-up meeting last week but we were unable to meet at their set time and told them as much. Instead we had a surprise visit tonight at our home. So I did what most normal people do when JWs come-a-knockin and ignored them. My wife and kids were already out on the back porch waiting on me to join them for supper so I slipped out the back and let them call my phone.
My assumption was right: They wanted to inform us that we are both being disfellowshipped, guilty as charged (apostasy of course).
We will now wait for until the last minute to submit our appeal letters so that we can attend my BIL's wedding on the 9th (we can't have the announcement being read before next Tuesday so, yes, our only option is to appeal). We should be able to stall and then tell them nevermind before having to meet again, though. This isn't ideal but it's the best delay we could hope for. The fact that they caught me recording the meeting bought us some much-needed time. (BTW, if you haven't read the transcript of the last minute of their private deliberations, it's pretty good, but a curse word or two mixed in would've been funnier.)
Not looking for sympathy, just wanted to update any who were following this. I know there are folks who empathize out there and I (we) appreciate the words of encouragement we've received. We recognize that things could always be worse. As long as my wife and I are together and raising the kids with similar objectives and values, that's what matters most. I think there's an excellent future to be had for my children, I just wish their grandparents could be part of it. Nonetheless, words of consolation should be saved for those who go through this and lose their spouses and/or children. That is something I cannot imagine.
I'm planning on writing something of a.... uh, manifesto, maybe... for friends and family before the announcement is made. (Yeah, I'm not really capable of writing a manifesto but it sounds better than "memo," right?) It will be an amalgam of all the information I've learned from you good citizens of JWN along with a few personal thoughts and some comments from some books I've read. I'm hoping to post it on a webpage temporarily and link to it on Facebook before the fit hits the shan. Some will have to know what really happened here before it's all over. If it helps wake just one person up, then it was worth the effort, right? I think so.
Best wishes to all of you in your endeavors to find truth.
SBCheezits