AGuest...Hi...missed your posts. 
This incident didn't affect me more than others across the world. I cry when I watch those commercials of starving children where they ask you to sponser a child. I almost totally stopped watching the news because I just can't handle the violence. I am a pacifist. I hate war. Any war. I am not patriotic. I am part of the whole world, not just America. I think about the mothers and fathers of children in Iraq and Afghanistan who have watched their children die because of our policies and my guts wrench. I refuse to buy diamonds because I can't wear a stone that a child slaved to dig up and may have been killed for.
Yet I had relatives and friends who lived in NY. Are they any more human than others who die across the world? No. But they are close to me. If I could save every person in this world who is tortured, or sold into slavery, or killed in drive-by shootings or wars, etc., etc., by giving my life to do so, I would do it in a heartbeat.
And I feared for my sons because I didn't know what was going to happen next. As for lighting candles or having moments of silence, I do that for many things simply to remind myself of what is important and to reflect on other's suffering. I give of myself and donate time and promote awareness of atrocities around the world, such as volunterring at a rape crisis center, giving time to causes affecting women...I have one degree in psychology and am working towards my Masters. My field will be domestic violence issues.
Also helping ex-JWS get past the brainwashing.