Blondie's Comments You Will Not Hear at the 08-22-10 WT Study (SPEECH)

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    Comments You Will Not Hear at the 08-22-10 WT Study (JUNE 15, 2010, pages 20-24)(SPEECH)

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    “Let your utterance be always with graciousness.”—COL. 4:6.


    Maybe it’s because I am a woman, but the only people who yelled at me in so-called Christian settings were men, elders. I hadn’t yelled or attacked the WTS or their authority, merely asked why time after time they had not shown Christian love.

    This was done in front of others, even my jw husband…when other elders intervened and admitted these men had been way out of line, never a personal apology by these elders, but other elders who had never been present. One even said he had the right to yell at me because Jesus had “yelled” at Martha…..?????


    Q1,2. What good resulted from a brother’s gracious


    1. “WHILE preaching from door to door, I

    met a man who became so angry that

    his lips quivered and his whole body shook,”

    reports one brother. “I calmly tried to reason

    with him from the Scriptures, but his anger

    only intensified. His wife and children

    joined in berating me, and I knew it was

    time to leave. I assured the family that I had

    come in peace and wished to go in peace. I

    showed them Galatians 5:22 and 23, where

    love, mildness, self-control, and peace are

    mentioned. Then I left.


    Note that this jw does not tell what it was that upset this man and his family; that it might even have been valid, worthy of an apology.

    I can tell you this, if these people were that upset, taking the time to show them a scripture implying they were in the wrong would have escalated this situation.

    I was with an older jw woman where a man confronted us about jw lack of participation in the military and the flag salute. She quickly told him that the flag was a pagan symbol and of the devil…can you guess…he was even angrier and started chasing us out to the sidewalk with this jw woman yelling at him that she had the legal right to come to his door.

    Or the jw woman who told a landlord that we did not have to leave his property…yes, because we had the legal right to be there. Both women were regular pioneers. Jws were banned from both locations for years to the chagrin of the BOE.

    2 “Later, while calling on homes across the

    street, I saw the family sitting on their front

    steps. They called me over. ‘What now?’ I

    thought. The man had a jug of cool water

    and offered me a drink. He apologized for

    his rudeness and commended me for my

    strong faith. We parted on good terms.”


    So who were the real Christians here? The jw man who dropped by unannounced and corrected them with a scripture and did not apologize. Who was being rude? Notice that the point(s) of contention are still not given here.

    Q3. Why must we resist letting others make us angry?

    3 In today’s pressure-filled world, encountering

    angry people, including in the ministry,

    is often unavoidable. When we do, it is

    essential that we display “a mild temper and

    deep respect.” (1 Pet. 3:15) Had the brother

    mentioned above allowed the householder’s

    wrath and unkindness to cause him to

    become angry, the man’s attitude would not

    likely have softened as it did; he might have

    become even angrier. Because the brother

    controlled himself and spoke graciously, the

    outcome was good.


    Did you encounter angry people? How do you think people might feel if they have a faith that sustains them and then jws call implying there is something wrong with that faith? Or the man who told me he had observed first hand the lack of Christian love by jws…a 16-year-old jw girl lived next door and had become pregnant. Her parents kicked her out and refused to provide a home for her and her soon to be born child. First, legally she was underage and her parents could not do this. Second, this man told me that no one in her congregation would help her. So his family had given her a home. Believe me, I could find no scripture to explain that. This was a new congregation for me so I asked and was told the man was lying…I checked with another government source who confirmed it was true. Then the elders said they had no control over what the father did in his own household…even though he broke the law by kicking a 16-year-old out into the cold.

    Are you telling me that many, many jws don’t walk away from a non-jw’s home and conclude that this person is doomed to eternal death, is a goat?

    What do jws believe when someone “rejects Jesus’ rule”? Equals rejecting the WTS/FDS/GB.

    ***w95 1 0/15 p. 26 par. 15 What Future for the Sheep and the Goats? ***

    Preferring the wicked world, goatlike ones reject the Kingdom message, whether hearing it directly or indirectly.

    *** w653/15 p. 176 par. 10 Our Own Twentieth-Century Generation and the Resurrection***The undedicated children of goatish people will not be spared from execution and being sentenced to Gehenna just because they are themselves minor, unresponsible children.

    What Makes Speech Gracious?

    Q4. Why is it important to use gracious speech?

    4 Whether we are dealing with those outside

    or those inside the congregation, even

    with family members, it is vital to follow the

    apostle Paul’s counsel: “Let your utterance

    be always with graciousness, seasoned with

    salt.” (Col. 4:6) Such tasteful, appropriate

    speech is essential to good communication

    and peace.


    Have you see fights between elders, elder bodies, families at the kingdom hall?

    Have you learned about fights between elders at their meetings? Congregations where factions have broken off following one elder or another?

    Q5. What does good communication not mean? Illustrate .

    5 Good communication does not mean

    saying everything you are thinking and feeling

    at any given moment, especially if you

    are upset. The Scriptures show that uncontrolled

    expression of anger is a mark of weakness,

    not of strength. (Read Proverbs 25:28;

    29:11.) Moses—“by far the meekest” of all

    men then alive—once let the rebelliousness

    of the nation of Israel cause him to lose

    his temper and fail to give glory to God.

    Moses very clearly communicated how he

    felt, but Jehovah was not pleased. After 40

    years of leading the Israelites, Moses did not

    have the privilege of taking them into the

    Promised Land.—Num. 12:3; 20:10, 12; Ps.



    What about Rutherford…here is a letter from a WT attorney. Does this sound like graciousness of speech?

    Why didn’t God forgive Moses as he had Miriam and Aaron for idolatry?

    Q6. Being discreet in our speech means what?

    6 The Scriptures commend the exercising

    of restraint and discretion, or good judgment,

    when we speak. “In the abundance of

    words there does not fail to be transgression,

    but the one keeping his lips in check is acting

    discreetly.” (Prov. 10:19; 17:27) Yet, discretion

    does not mean never expressing oneself.

    It means speaking “with graciousness,”

    using the tongue to heal rather than to hurt.

    —Read Proverbs 12:18; 18:21.


    So if discretion does not mean never expressing oneself, how is it that the WTS holds back from “expressing” itself to the legal authorities regarding child abuse cases unless SECULAR law requires it?

    How does the WTS “heal” in these situations?

    “A Time to Keep Quiet and a Time to Speak”

    Q7. What sort of things should not be expressed, and


    7 Just as we need to show graciousness

    and restraint when speaking with workmates

    or with strangers in the ministry, we also

    need to do so in the congregation and at

    home. Venting anger without concern for

    the consequences can cause serious damage

    to our own and others’ spiritual, emotional,

    and physical health. (Prov. 18:6, 7) Bad feelings—

    manifestations of our imperfect nature—

    must be controlled. Abusive speech,

    ridicule, contempt, and hateful wrath are

    wrong. (Col. 3:8; Jas. 1:20) They can destroy

    precious relationships with other people and

    with Jehovah. Jesus taught: “Everyone who

    continues wrathful with his brother will be

    accountable to the court of justice; but whoever

    addresses his brother with an unspeakable word

    of contempt will be accountable to

    the Supreme Court; whereas whoever says,

    ‘You despicable fool!’ will be liable to the

    fiery Gehenna.”—Matt. 5:22.


    I can remember several sisters who came to an elder in our congregation about the verbal abuse they had to put up with by their MS and elder husbands. This elder naively thought he should apply these scriptures and that these men should not have “privileges.” Instead, the BOE appointed the MS an elder and re-appointed one as an elder.

    So should these children and women wait for God to send these men to Gehenna?

    Q8. When must we express our feelings, but in what


    8 There are some matters, though, on

    Which we may conclude that it is best to communicate.

    If something a brother has said or done disturbs

    you so much that you cannot

    simply pass it over, do not let hateful feelings

    fester in your heart. (Prov. 19:11) If someone

    angers you, get your own emotions under

    control and then take the steps needed to resolve

    the matter. Paul wrote: “Let the sun not

    set with you in a provoked state.” Because the

    problem continues to trouble you, address it

    kindly at an opportune time. (Read Ephesians

    4:26, 27, 31, 32.) Speak with your brother

    about the matter, frankly but graciously, in

    a spirit of reconciliation.—Lev. 19:17; Matt.



    Wouldn’t abuse be something worthy of being communicated? Isn’t that something that disturbs more than one person? Is it something that even falls under the Matthew 18 WT principle? Should be a spirit of reconciliation?

    Picture: Let your own emotions

    settle, and then find an

    opportune time to talk

    Q9. Why should we get our own emotions under

    control before approaching others?

    9 Of course, you should take care to select

    the proper time. There is “a time to keep

    quiet and a time to speak.” (Eccl. 3:1, 7)

    Moreover, “the heart of the righteous one

    meditates so as to answer.” (Prov. 15:28) This

    may well involve waiting to talk problems

    out. Doing so when one is still very upset

    could make matters worse; but neither is it

    wise to wait a long time.


    What would be the proper time? How long should you wait? So when would you stop being upset about abuse? Why is it you can take one or more “witnesses” to minor things but not when it is a judicial committee—your word against the word of 3 men?

    I can remember an elder jumping to a conclusion at a meeting about me, demanding that I explain my actions with a loud voice in front of others at the meeting, only to find out it was his wife that had done it. No apology……he merely said I could have done it and walked away.

    Gracious Acts Promote Good Relationships

    Q10. How can performing gracious acts improve relationships?

    10 Gracious speech and good communication

    help to establish and sustain peaceful

    relationships. In fact, doing what we can to

    improve our relationships with others can

    improve our communication with them.

    Reaching out to others with sincere, kind

    acts—finding opportunities to help, giving a

    gift from the heart, extending hospitality—

    can contribute to open communication.

    It can even “heap fiery coals” on a person

    And may bring out good qualities, making it

    easier to talk things out.—Rom.12:20, 21.


    Is gracious speech only something done in public? Is gossip, slander, lying gracious speech? What are elders doing when they play the good cop (kind) bad cop (liar)? Over a 10 year period I extended hospitality to many people, one elder in particular. He kept accepting and then later backing out, probably 20 times. Finally, we signed up for hospitality at the public talk. He backed out again…it turns out he had made plans after the fact with his “special friends.” I’d like to say I’m an ugly witch with a wart on my nose, but not so. I just read this scripture.

    (Psalm15:4) . . .He has sworn to what is bad [for himself], and yet he does not alter.

    Even on paper the WTS knows that.

    ***w06 5/15 p. 19 Highlights From Book One of Psalms ***

    Unless we come to the realization that we have made an unscriptural promise, we should do all we can to fulfill our word, even if it is very difficult to do so

    Q11. How did Jacob reach out to Esau, and with what


    11 The patriarch Jacob understood this.

    His twin brother, Esau, was so angry with

    him that Jacob fled for fear Esau would kill

    him. After many years, Jacob returned. Esau

    came out to meet him, along with 400 men.

    Jacob prayed for Jehovah’s help. Then he

    sent ahead to Esau a large gift of livestock.

    The gift achieved its purpose. When they

    met, Esau’s heart had softened, and he ran

    and embraced Jacob.—Gen. 27:41-44; 32:6,

    11, 13-15; 33:4, 10.


    So why was Esau angry? Hadn’t Jacob tricked him and Isaac rather than helping him? Perhaps thinking that it was God’s will? Had Esau threatened to kill him?

    So is the WTS saying that if an elder, CO, or DO is “pissed” with you, you should give him presents? Is that all it takes to achieve “peace” in the organization?

    Encourage Others With Gracious Speech

    Q12. Why should we use gracious words with our


    12 Christians serve God, not other humans.

    Still, we naturally desire others’ approval.

    Our gracious words can lighten the load of

    our brothers and sisters. Harsh criticism,

    however, can make those loads feel heavier

    and even cause some to wonder if they have

    lost Jehovah’s approval. Therefore, let us sincerely

    communicate encouraging things to

    others, “whatever saying is good for building

    up as the need may be, that it may impart

    what is favorable to the hearers.”—Eph. 4:29.


    Christians = only jws

    Don’t jws serve the WTS/FDS/GB?

    Did you feel that pleasing the elders = pleasing God?

    ***w89 9/15 p. 22 par. 10 Be Obedient to Those Taking the Lead ***

    Our being obedient and submissive to congregation elders does not mean that we are men pleasers. That would be unscriptural, for first-century Christian slaves were told to obey their masters, “not with acts of eye-service, as men pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, with fear of Jehovah.” (Colossians 3:22; Ephesians 6:5, 6)

    Q13. Elders ought to keep what in mind (a) when

    giving counsel? (b) when preparing correspondence?

    13 Elders, in particular, should be “gentle”

    and treat the flock with tenderness. (1 Thess.

    2:7, 8) When elders are called upon to give

    counsel, their goal is to do so “with mildness,”

    even when speaking with those “not

    favorably disposed.” (2 Tim. 2:24, 25) Elders

    should also be gracious in expressing themselves

    in written correspondence when it is

    necessary to correspond with another body

    of elders or with the branch office. They

    should be kind and tactful, in line with what

    we read at Matthew 7:12.


    So elders (BOE) have been sending letters to other BOEs and the branch that are not “gracious”? It must be frequent enough to make a comment in a study article.

    When reading the account of the shepherd who went out to find the one out of the 100 sheep that had strayed, do you think Jesus meant this? Does the sheep have to call out first before the shepherd looks for it?

    ***w02 3/1 p. 16 pars. 13-14 How Precious Is the Truth to You? ***

    In Scotland some young lambs were grazing in a pasture when one of them strayed to the side of a hillock and tumbled onto a ledge below. It was uninjured, but it was frightened and unable to climb back. So it started to bleat plaintively. Its mother heard it, and she too began to bleat until the shepherd came and retrieved the young lamb.

    Notice the sequence of events. The lamb called for help, the ewe added her voice to its cries, and the alerted shepherd sprang into action to rescue it.

    Using Gracious Speech Within the Family

    Q14. What counsel does Paul give husbands, and


    14 It is easy to underestimate the impact

    that our words, facial expressions, and body

    language have on others. Some men, for example,

    may not be fully aware of how deeply

    their words affect women. One sister said, “It

    frightens me when my husband angrily raises

    his voice at me.” Strong words may exert

    greater force on a woman than on a man and

    may stay with her for a long time. (Luke 2:19)

    This is especially true of words spoken by

    someone a woman loves and wants to respect.

    Paul counseled husbands: “Keep on

    loving your wives and do not be bitterly angry

    with them.”—Col. 3:19.


    I wonder if that sister is frightened when other men in the congregation raise their voices? Is it only women who are frightened when the elders shout at them? Does Luke 2:19 say that Mary, Jesus’ mother, was frightened by loud words? Or that only women remember what is said them for a long time? That men cannot drag up things that were said 20 years ago and through them back at their wives? Is that to say that men are not affected when someone shows bitter anger towards them?

    What does the WTS mean…that women are frightened little bunnies, more emotional than men, that men have to make consideration for their “weaknesses”?

    Q15. Illustrate why a husband should treat his wife


    15 In this respect, an experienced married

    brother illustrated why a husband should

    treat his wife gently, as “a weaker vessel.”

    “When you hold a precious and delicate

    vase, you must not grasp it too firmly, or it

    may crack. Even if repaired, the crack may remain

    visible,” he said. “If a husband uses

    words that are too strong with his wife, he

    may hurt her. This might cause a lasting

    crack in their relationship.”—Read 1 Peter 3:7.


    How is a woman weaker, mentally, emotionally, etc.? The only way is that as a group men are PHYSICALLY stronger than men. Is physical strength necessary for a strong spiritual life? The jw that wrote this paragraph is “cracked.”

    Why quote this translation and throw in the word “emotional”?

    *** w08 2/1 p. 29 Finding Fulfillment as a Mother ***

    In that case, a wise husband will pay particular attention to the Bible’s admonition: “You husbands must show understanding in your married life: treat your wives with respect, not only because they are physically weaker, but also because God’s gift of life is something you share together.” (1 Peter 3:7, The Revised English Bible) A husband shows respect for his wife by being sensitive to her physical and emotional limitations.

    Q16. How can a wife build up

    her family?

    16 Men too can be encouraged or discouraged

    by another’s words, including those of

    their wives. “A discreet wife,” one in whom

    her husband can really “put trust,” is considerate

    of his feelings, just as she wants him to

    be of hers. (Prov. 19:14; 31:11) Indeed, a wife

    can have considerable influence within the

    family, for good or for bad. “The truly wise

    woman has built up her house, but the foolish

    one tears it down with her own hands.”



    So do men then have “emotional limitations”?

    Q17. (a) How should younger

    ones address their parents?

    (b) How should older ones address

    younger ones, and why?

    17 Parents and children likewise should

    speak to one another with graciousness.

    (Matt. 15:4) When talking to younger ones,

    Thoughtfulness will help us to avoid

    “exasperating” them or ‘provoking

    them to wrath.’ (Col.

    3:21; Eph. 6:4, ftn.) Even if

    the children must be disciplined,

    parents and elders

    should speak to them respectfully.

    In this way, older

    ones make it easier for

    the youths to correct their

    course and maintain their

    relationship with God. That

    is so much better than conveying

    the impression that

    we have given up on them,

    whereupon they may give

    up on themselves. Younger

    ones might not remember

    all the counsel they received,

    but they will remember how

    others spoke to them.


    I grew up thinking all parents called their children “stupid” many times every day. I can remember hearing what jw parents said to their children in the restroom and/or backroom. I can remember an elder telling one 10-year-old boy at the hall that he was a failure and would not make it through Armageddon. Yes, young ones do remember, I still remember 45 years later. And will they remember all the “counsel” that is give at the end of a spoon or a hand, with a smack to the bottom or to the face?


    A man should always speak

    gently to his wife

    Speaking Good Things From the Heart

    Q18. How can we get rid of hurtful thoughts and feelings?

    18 Handling anger calmly is not simply a

    matter of putting on a serene face. Our goal

    should be more than merely repressing our

    strong feelings. Trying to remain calm on the

    outside while boiling with anger on the inside

    puts us under strain. It is like stepping on

    a car’s brake pedal and gas pedal both at the

    same time. That puts the car under extra

    stress and can cause damage. So do not bottle

    up anger and let it explode later. Pray for Jehovah’s

    help to rid your heart of hurtful

    feelings. Let Jehovah’s spirit transform your

    mind and heart to conform to his will.—Read

    Romans 12:2; Ephesians 4:23, 24.


    How many jws put “on a serene face” at the KH and as soon as they get in the car, start in on their children or spouse who feel they have to sit there and take it or be found not showing “respect.”

    Or the ones that speak nicely to your face then turn and tell their “friends” what a spiritual failure you are and regale them with your perceived faults?

    Or the elders that tell others how they gave “loving” counsel to you but fail to mention how they screamed into your face and made threats how they would “ruin” you in the congregation?

    Q19. What steps can help us to avoid angry confrontations?

    19 Take practical steps. If you find yourself

    in a tense situation and you sense anger

    building inside you, it may help to leave the

    scene, thus giving your emotions time to settle.

    (Prov. 17:14) If the one with whom you

    are speaking starts to get angry, make an extra

    effort to speak graciously. Remember: “An

    answer, when mild, turns away rage, but a

    word causing pain makes anger to come up.”

    (Prov. 15:1) A cutting or aggressive remark

    would add fuel to the fire even if it is delivered

    in a gentle voice. (Prov. 26:21) So when a

    situation tries your self-control, be “slow

    about speaking, slow about wrath.” Pray for

    Jehovah’s spirit to help you to say good

    things, not bad.—Jas.1:19.


    Leave the scene? I can remember when a sister tried quietly only to have the elder follow her out screaming? Or to have an elder use a meeting as a platform to chastise individuals in the audience?

    Forgiving From the Heart

    Q20, 21. What can help us to forgive others, and

    why must we do so?

    20 Sadly, none of us have perfect control of

    the tongue. (Jas. 3:2) Despite their best efforts,

    even family members and our dear spiritual

    brothers and sisters may at times blurt

    out things that hurt our feelings. Instead of

    quickly taking offense, patiently analyze why

    they may have said what they did. (Read Ecclesiastes

    7:8, 9.) Were they under pressure,

    fearful, not feeling well, or struggling with

    some external or internal problem?


    Once again the WTS throws out the “imperfect” clause. It is invoked when elders are involved, but the rank and file are held responsible mercilessly.

    Best efforts….I know that when elders yelled at me, it was not the first time and that they had not been “counseled” since most times another elder stood there silently and said nothing. How many verbal punches does an elder get?

    21 Such factors do not excuse outbursts.

    But our recognizing the factors may help us

    to understand why people sometimes say

    and do things they should not and may

    move us to be forgiving. All of us have said

    and done things that hurt others, and we

    hope that they will graciously forgive us.

    (Eccl. 7:21, 22) Jesus said that in order for us

    to receive God’s forgiveness, we must forgive

    others. (Matt. 6:14, 15; 18:21, 22, 35) Therefore,

    we should be quick to apologize and

    quick to forgive, thus maintaining love—the

    “perfect bond of union”—within our family

    and within the congregation.—Col. 3:14.


    If they don’t excuse, then why mention “imperfect.” Quick to apologize? I have never had an elder apologize for something he did, apologize for other elders who will not, yes.

    Q22. Why is it well worth our effort to use gracious


    22 Challenges to our joy and unity are likely

    to increase as this present angry system

    draws to its end. Applying the practical principles

    in God’s Word will help us to use our

    tongue to do good, not bad. We will enjoy

    more peaceful relations within the congregation

    and within the family, and our example

    will provide an excellent witness to others

    about our “happy God,” Jehovah.—1 Tim.



    Is the non-jw system to blame for jw angry speech, unpeaceful relations at the kingdom hall? Wouldn’t that be just like Adam blaming Eve?

    Can You Explain?

    ? Why is it important to select an appropriate

    time to discuss problems?

    ? Why should family members always

    speak to one another “with graciousness”?

    ? How can we avoid saying hurtful


    ? What can help us to be forgiving?


    Is the anger building in jw families, congregations, BOEs, and branches? Sounds like it is. The lack of love for each other and the judgmental approach to others in the congregation contributes to this. The lack of humility on the part of elders and others to admit responsibility, change, and make amends, also is at the foundation.

    I was surprised to see the WTS say that relations between elder bodies and the branches need improving. The WTS rarely shows its dirty laundry.


    Love, Blondie

  • palmtree67

    Blondie, I remember an article at one time making the point that the "weaker" vessel did NOT mean weaker mentally or emotionally. It said thatin comparison to the angels, men were also "weaker" vessels.

    Yet, they always seem to fall back on the idea that women ARE weaker mentally and have to be treated as such.....Do they just forget what they've researched before? Or do the new ideas just not take root in their brains?

    Thanks for your synopsis, again. Well done.


  • ziddina


    Thank you, Blondie!!!



  • ziddina
    "Challenges to our joy and unity are likely to increase as this present angry system draws to its end. ..."

    And, as Blondie said... :

    "Is the anger building in jw families, congregations, BOEs, and branches? Sounds like it is. ..."

    Not surprising. As was stated by another poster in another thread (Rats!!! Couldn't find it; it was about the "New Generation" teaching...), the poster made a statement to the effect that those JWs who were expecting the end to come "soon", were now saddled with the equivalent of a 30-year-mortgage...

    Having to wait another 30 + years for "Armageddon" is creating a LOT of unhappiness among the Rank & File...


  • monkeyman

    Blondie, the reason elders get away with this crap is because of all the meetings and articles and talks about OBEDIENCE!!!

    Obedience, ministry, obedience, ministry. Over and over again. When it comes to obedience the message comes across that elders need to be obeyed even if they are wrong.

    This gives them carte blanche in how they treat people. Elders begin thinking "how can I be wrong when everyone has to obey what I say even if I say the wrong thing or in the wrong way"

    Over the years, and there are many of them for me, I thought this situation would surely improve. This is God's organization right?

    But it has only gotten worse. Way worse. This forum has informed me that the situation is not local. Rather, it is global.


  • Open mind
    Open mind

    That first paragraph was unbelievable.

    Thanks as always for your insightful commentary Blondie.


  • booby

    I concur with what Open Mind said. I don't believe that fabricated story for a moment. How gullible and stupid do they think their readership has become? It just has no logic to it at all.

  • boyzone

    Yeah I'd like to know what caused the worldly man to be angry too. Maybe he was "under pressure, fearful, not feeling well or struggling with some external or internal problem" as para 20 says. Or does that only apply to angry JW's?

    Thanks Blondie

  • fokyc

    I have just listened to this whole study on the telephone

    It is truly amazing to hear the glib answers from people you actually know!

    They just can't help themselves, they have to lie to make it sound good.

    This was a very good bit:

    "Elders should also be gracious in expressing themselves in written correspondence when it is necessary to correspond with another body of elders or with the branch office. They should be kind and tactful, in line with what we read at Matthew 7:12."

    The Elders in my wifes cong haven't a clue how to be gracious or kind and tactful.

    Many thanks Blondie for your excellent and accurate coverage.

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