This has not happened to me personally ,but was told to me by a reinstated member
A sister who was reinstated, accompanied her mom to another sisters house for dinner
and a movie. When they arrived the hostess ask the reinstated sister to leave because
she was not invited, so the she left, the mom stayed. I asked her if she was reinstated
why was she treated that way, she replied, once you get disfellowshiped some hold it
against you always. How on earth could the mom stay there and eat the food of someone
who just treated your child badly? where in the heck is the natural affection?