First of all, I have NO intentions of confessing any thing to a committee! But I've got the goods on my ex-father-in-law that will get him disfellowshipped. I don't normally go around doing that kind of thing, but he lied and had another elder lie trying to get me disfellowshipped when ever my wife walked out on my seven-year-old son and 10-year-old daughter to fly from AL to NY to be with a man she met on the internet. She came back to town a week later and stayed with her sister. Her father was/is an elder in that cong . When my ex-wife met with the committee, they grilled her trying to get her to say something they could disfellowship me for. She told me when she didn't come up with anything they got upset. I called the CO to make sure she was DF'd. The CO made a special trip to make sure everything was handled properly. Had I not called him, those SOB's would have DF'd me!
Her sister did a similar thing two years earlier, but her sister's internet man came to the US from Australia got her pregnant (her husband had a vasectomy). She mysteriously has a "miscarriage". Then her sister leaves her two-year-old and four-year-old with her husband and flies to Australia from GA. She stays nearly 3 months in Australia with the man. She finally flies to AL to live with her father the elder. My ex-father-in-law goes with her into the committee meeting, told her to say she just had a miscarriage (don't mention who the real father was), and her daddy says she is about to have a nervous breakdown. The Committee "public reproved" her. The congration went wild!! My wife's brother was also an elder, but wasn't in on the committee. Her other brother was a ministerial servant. They new enough of the details. Most of the congregation new most of the big things. Not who the father was. The rafters shook. They raised more hell!
Hypothetically, someone that has been in-active for several years starts reattending meetings. He approaches the elders confessing a "single" act of fornication and was found "repentant". The only ones aware of the fornication are his two non-believing children and his disfellowshipped ex-wife (they were divorced and she disfellowshipped years before this act). Could he expect public or private reproof? What about restriction (i.e. commenting at meetings).
I need to get the news out by my ex-wife that I have been publicly or privately reproved and what restrictions. After a reasonable amount of time, I want to bring out my evidence (a letter the sister's man mailed to the sister that arrived at my house while she was in Australia that my ex-wife opened and showed me) that my father-in-law knowingly withheld information and lied to the 1st daughter's committee. I don't want to be active. I just need to know what to tell my ex-wife. If it matters my ex, kids and I live in a metropolitan area and her family live in a hillbilly backwards town 10 hours away now.