Was the "brown coats" a reference to the Nazi "brown shirts"? LOL
(((((Simon)))))
I am so sorry for your distress. Are you going to Canada? Are you there now? (Sorry if I should have known by means of some other post, I've not been on the board too much lately.)
If your dad is still in hospital and they haven't let him go home, then likely he will be undergoing surgery. As the survivor of the stress and horror (yes, I actually got myself some tranquilizers after a few days post-surgery) of WAITING FOR THE RESULTS of open heart surgery, my own heart is going out to you and Ang & family.
The success rate with open heart surgery is 99% these days. We thought my husband was going to have a triple by-pass and he wound up needing a quintuple. But he is doing VERY WELL. You might reduce your anxiety by hearing for yourself from the doctor what your father's risk category is -- age/weight/severity of damage to the heart muscle itself/percent of blockage/etc. and BEING THERE on site.
If you have not left yet and are able to go, go. If not, perhaps you could phone the surgeon's office. If you are unable to speak to her/him, his nurse-practicioner might be able to bring you up to speed. At the hospital where my husband had surgery there was also a support group that met so that the family could ask the upsetting questions of the nurse-practicioner (sp?) and a social worker, away from the patient's bedside where the patient might be alarmed.
I'm going to try to learn RIGHT NOW how to scan a document onto my computer so that I can send you the latest Questions From Readers re:Blood and also, if you think you need it, I can try to scan the latest Advance Medical Directive forms that I have (1999 or 2000 for the U.S.) describing all of your father's choices -- there is likely a more up-to-date one, and perhaps somebody here has the 2002 version for Canada? The meeting part should be coming up soon...
E-mail me privately if you like at [email protected]
Love,
outnfree
It's what you learn after you know it all that counts -- John Wooden