Many of us here on the board are " inactive" , myself included. Have NOT attended meetings or gone out in service for years. I haven't now for 6 years + . It has been a challenge as I have many JW relatives still actively participating as members. Some of my JW family respects my fade and inactivity - my elderly dad and mom do, one older brother mostly and one sister who suffered a stroke a couple years ago. I have another ex-Gilead sister who shuns me and will not talk to me, as do my 2 adult JW daughters mostly. I am in contact with a continuing growing list of inactive nieces and nephews who respect me . Fortunately my 24 year old son and I are close and he is out of the org. and my wife never has been a JW.
As Ray Franz stated in his book " Crisis of Conscience " on page 348 " Certainly one of the most painful experiences for many who have tried to be true to conscience is to realize how quickly long-term friendships can end , how abruptly an atmosphere of apparent love can change to one of cold distrust " . He continues , " When your very reverence, devotion and integrity toward God have been defamed, it is a chilling experience to hear someone that you considered a friend say , " I don't know what happened and I prefer NOT to know. " Or to learn that such a one has said, " I don't know the FACTS but whatever the organization did there must have been a good reason. " Ray continues, " I believe that the turning off one's affection with the apparent ease of turning off a light switch is also a product of ORGANIZATIONAL INDOCTRINATION , NOT SOMETHING NORMAL to most persons' natural feelings. " He adds, " Whatever the case, the Witness who follows his or her conscience may indeed find terminated virtually every friendship that he or she has had. "
It is ridiculous . Aside from my JW family who associate sporadically with me , NONE of ANY of my former JW friends ever keep in touch at all with me. Of the 2 I tried calling to see where their heads are at- the " cult mind control" was so strong that 95 % of the conversation was them defending the WT society's stupid rules. Fortunately I've made great friends with ex-JW's on the board and other " never been a witness " people and moved on.
But it would be interesting for many of us to know - How many of you have been shunned , just because you stopped attending meetings or going in service ? As always I look forward to your thoughts. Peace out to all, Mr. Flipper