Alright.... Everyone keep saying OVER AND OVER AGAIN ..you can't love someone without loving yourself first. All people ever do ...even the ones that are in codependant relationships that are violent and upsetting say 'you must love yourself first' ...i've been told that ALL my life...'love yourself first love yourself first'
YOU KNOW WHAT? THAT'S LIKE TELLING SOMEONE THAT DOESN'T KNOW JAPANESE......'YOU GOTTA LEARN JAPANESE FIRST!' YOU GOTTA LEARN JAPANESE FIRST?
no one EVER tells you HOW to do it. If someone comes from a dysfunctional family and broken family where there WAS BARELY any love (japanese)...WHAT IS THE USE OF TELLING SOMEONE TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST IF THEY NEVER UNDERSTOOD HOW TO LOVE????????????????????? I'M ANGRY AND UPSET THAT PEOPLE ARE SO STUPID SOMETIMES! IF SOMEONE DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO DO IT...BECUASE THEY HAVE BEEN BROUGHT UP BEATEN...ABUSED...IN EVERY WAY AND THEN EXPECT THAT CHILD TO GO ABOUT AND SAY 'LOVE YOURSELF' ...EVEN THOUGH HE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND WHAT THE FUCK LOVE REALLY IS....OR HOW TO EVEN DO IT...THEN WHY NOT ...HELP HIM SEE? INSTEAD OF GIVING HIMTHAT BS?????????
They say 'you're being loving when your self sacrificing, look out for other people's needs first' ...........NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO I grew UP having to sacrifice.......put shit on the line and give up shit OUT OF OBLIGATION! and i STILL feel like i'm hallow and empty! i'm upsset....
i'm in a great relationship with this amazing girl....and i still feel empty.