DOUBLE LIFE - Yes, good point. I forgot about that.
FLIPPER - Indeed you are right! That is the answer! Its the only answer to the question! Making someone feel of no value and taking away their self esteem is what they are experts at....that way, theyve got them where they want them.
My friend got reinstated about 2months ago now, and still has no privileges. He feels very much not a part of things and still feels like he's being judged and punished. He gets quite down and depressed about it at times and has felt like just getting up and going home from the meeting....in fact, I think he has done.
Like Etna, has said, he waited and waited for the elders to meet with him when he submitted his request for reinstatement. He was the one continually on their case, asking 'when' they were going to come and talk to him about it. They didnt seem to be in a hurry to do so. He got frustrated and angry about it....and I suppose, even that, is demeaning and humiliating, when you are made to feel that you are almost begging to be let back in. Then of course, when you are.....you need to wait' again....until the elders see fit that you can raise your hand and give a prepared answer at the WT study. Yes, it is all very deflating.
WHAT A COINCIDENCE. Yes, I had a look at WT take on Luke 15 : 7 and the whole article was discussing 'spiritually weak ones' in the congregation and what each one can do to encourage them to come back to the meetings. (It was not discussing DF ones or reinstated ones) I will have a look at their take on Reinstatement....and see what gems I can find.