Convinced as i 99% am that the Wt society is all we have concluded, I feel i owe to myself and my children to be 100% convinced before actively trying to extract them.
I am learning that in "normal" life one is not usually 100% convinced of ANYTHING. There are always going to be doubts floating around about anything you do and this is ok as long as you don't dismiss them and thoroughly analyze them. I think this has been one of the hardest things for me to really accept. We are indoctrinated to believe that we SHOULD be 100% certain of everything or else something is wrong with us and I think this is one of the driving factors in why JWs tend to struggle with depression so much.
First up i must say, doctrine is of little interest to me. What gets me is the provable wrong-doing, the hypocrasy, cover-ups, double standards, you know what i mean i think.
I am not going to argue with this because I know that I myself felt the same way in the beginning. I really believed in the doctrine but it disturbed me that the source of the doctrine had its hands so dirtied. I was also really scared of finding out the doctrine was wrong (which goes right back to having to know everything is right rather than having doubts like I mentioned earlier) so I chose to stay away from challenging it. As I became more comfortable with the idea that the WBTS was fallible, I also became more comfortable with the idea that the doctrines may be fallible as well and also more comfortable with the idea of challenging those doctrines. That's when my interest in doctrine picked up. So don't be surprised if later on down the road you find yourself digging more in to the doctrinal side of things. It's completely ok and understandable that you don't want to deal with them right now.
therein lies the daunting road. I grew up in the 'truth', so i never got to make sure of all things before getting baptised. I find it daunting indeed to have to wade through so much argument and counter argument. What is true, what is a malicious lie, what has been blown out of proportion, and by whom. There is just so much from both sides that i almost dont know where to start.
I was born in too, and I think it may be a lot harder for those of us born in the org to challenge the beliefs that we were not only raised with but actually have lived in action our entire lives. It is indeed a daunting task, especially when you feel like you don't really have a good grasp on all the doctrine to begin with and feel guilty because you don't (something that's reserved for us "born ins" - "You are so fortunate you grew up knowing what the truth is!"). This is actually not all that unusual - most JWs don't have a full grasp on the doctrine. Oddly enough I gained a better grasp on the doctrine through backtracking - reading some material that pointed out fallacies in the doctrine and then reading over the Society's material to see if those fallacies still held. Some of the most confusing parts of the doctrine are the most fallible, and that very fallibility is exactly WHY they are so hard for JWs to understand. They don't make any sense to begin with!
The important thing is to just take your time. You don't have to have all the answers over night. Read a little here and a little there. Research your findings so you see and know for yourself that they are in fact true. Just take it one concept at a time and things will start falling in to place all on their own as to where you should look next. Take it as you would any large task - break it in to small pieces. Have you ever shied away from the door to door work because there were too many people out there for you to reach? Chances are you just thought of the ones you would reach that particular day and took it day by day. This is pretty much the same thing.
As for your children, I highly encourage you to give them some space even if you are not ready to separate from the organization yourself. That doesn't mean you should encourage them to take a "worldly" path but it does mean you should allow them the space to make their own decisions about which path to undertake. My argument is this: you know for yourself what damage it does to grow up in the organization not knowing anything so that later you wonder if you made the right choice by staying in even though you never had the chance to examine things for yourself. Now you're baptized and faced with possible shunning for "going back to the world" even though you never had the chance to be in the world and really make the decision on your own to become a JW to begin with. Do you want your children to be faced with the same thing when they get older, or would you prefer them to spend some time in the world (if they so choose) and later on realize that they really believe in the teachings of the WBTS and make an educated decision about their own baptisms rather than just following what they have only ever known? Someone at the door has the decision of whether or not to shut the door in your face, but a JW raised child often does not have that choice given to them. Religious beliefs become rules of life rather than optional beliefs... it's not "you shouldn't believe in Christmas" as it is with someone at the door but "you're not allowed to believe in Christmas". Can you imagine how many "worldly" people would be turned towards ANY truth if it was presented in such a fashion to them as it so often is to JW youth?
I pray that you are able find peace within yourself, where ever that peace may be found.