What i've always remembered is what Dave, Seven006, stated (I hope it was him!). Something to the effect that he was just a person who happened to have been in a cult. He wasn't a disfellowshipped person or an apostate. Those are JW terms. He's just him with nothing stuck to him from JWs, labels and such.
As has been stated many times before on this board is that we don't have to play by their rules. They are the ones with the JCs, df'g, da'g, apostates, ad nauseam. Let them have it to themselves.
I don't recognize their authority over me. They already have years of my time, volunteer work, some of my children. Why on earth should I concede any more to a group i have repudiated?
"It's easier to put on slippers than to carpet the world." (from "Stuart Saves His Family")