by KenUK 26 Replies latest jw friends
Ken..
I got a phone call the other day from a brother who had not been to meetings for 4 weeks. He wanted to chat about stuff and to go out and have a drink. We have spoken since and is coming to his own conclusions. I 'influenced' him somewhat! I think if I was DF'd he would not have rung.
ISP
Ken,
As has been said on this thread, everyone must choose their own way.
But, it must also be said that for whatever reason some choose a harder way than others. Why? That is for each to say. Many of us choose to risk losing mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, friends and even our children for what we feel in our heart is right.
It was not easy. But, damn, it was worth it! Integrity is good and in the end is well worth the price!
IW
Dungbettle says:
cult-exiting is an individual decision, and the method is an individual choice. many have taken your course, and for years have regretted it.
-----------your words are never more clearer- thanks
in fact as you mentioned this forum and others help folks on HOW AND WHEN TO leave that will work best for them
awhile back we had a thread called
"How to leave wt intact" and it addresses those very issus that ken is raising
here go ken
jmaes
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=5574&site=3#66584
Dungbettle says:
cult-exiting is an individual decision, and the method is an individual choice. many have taken your course, and for years have regretted it.
-----------your words are never more clearer- thanks
in fact as you mentioned this forum and others help folks on HOW AND WHEN TO leave that will work best for them
awhile back we had a thread called
"How to leave wt intact" and it addresses those very issus that ken is raising
here go ken
jmaes
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=5574&site=3#66584
ISP
Don't forget that one of the unfortunate things about the whole judicial process is that the elders simply announce at the meeting that 'Following a Judicial Hearing Bro X is now Disfellowshipped'.
The audience have no idea what you have done. These ones are not likely to contact you knowing they can get DF'd for doing that...even if they chose to do so...not knowing what you had been upto!
This is aside to the family issues which have already been brought out.
If you are DF'd...so what! There is not a lot to be done now about it. But many would not choose that course.
ISP
ISP,
Way to go - and valid point. D/F certainly makes you "persona non grata from day 1"
Island Woman,
Cerainly now understanding the family "angle". Perhaps says a lot about me:-)
JT,
Just a quick thanks for the reference - bit naive of me to assume this hasn't been around the forum before!! Just started reading it - plenty to read yet!
Ken, there is a lot to read...so you are excused! I wouldn't worry..just about everything that needs to be discussed has been! Welcome to the board! I am not far from Simon..in Manchester. Where abouts are you?
Best
ISP
Ken,
I did not understand: "Cerainly now understanding the family "angle". Perhaps says a lot about me:-)"
IW
Hi ISP,
I live near Peterborough - small village called Chatteris. Currently spending half my life (it feels like it!) in the Marriott at Worsley Park (the company has an office at Exchange Quays in Salford).
Must be worth a visit for a beer sometime!
Hi Ken,
What i've always remembered is what Dave, Seven006, stated (I hope it was him!). Something to the effect that he was just a person who happened to have been in a cult. He wasn't a disfellowshipped person or an apostate. Those are JW terms. He's just him with nothing stuck to him from JWs, labels and such.
As has been stated many times before on this board is that we don't have to play by their rules. They are the ones with the JCs, df'g, da'g, apostates, ad nauseam. Let them have it to themselves.
I don't recognize their authority over me. They already have years of my time, volunteer work, some of my children. Why on earth should I concede any more to a group i have repudiated?
Pat
"It's easier to put on slippers than to carpet the world." (from "Stuart Saves His Family")
