Cappy congratulations to you and your wife. You guys now get to be in the long game. Choose wisely.
When I told my wife that I no longer believed in the 'truth', We were in our mid twenties, I assured my wife that I had no intention of asking her to leave the JW world. I was very nervous and had no idea how she would respond.
She replied that she had never believed in it !!! When we talked about her feelings I found out that the JW's, in their community, had helped her mother and siblings out with food and clothes when they were going through a difficult time. So she was grateful and appreciative and genuinely liked a number of the friends.
She was like a worldly person who picks out a pleasant church to attend as more of a social convenience then a need to believe.
She met me early on when I was pioneering where the need was great and we fell in love and she just went along with it because that was our life then.
I often wonder how many JW's born-in or dragged in just go along with it.
Anyway we were united in making a new productive life together and and we did. We got out 48 years ago. Being united in heart and mind has made our years together wonderful.
We did have to make adjustments at first, both mentally and emotionally, and when our families took notice we learned that not being a JW was the 800 pound gorilla in the room with every visit. And it did take a few years to reshape our lives until we could feel 'normal'.
By the way I think the pedophile issue is really the only door opener to us. How does a JW argue in favor of the WT's policy?