Don't want to celebrate holidays even with my daughter...

cognac

I really just don't want to. I feel like its so much work, stressful, commercialized and since I never formed the habit of it I hate the idea of celebrating them. I wouldn't mind buying presents for my daughter on Christmas and maybe doing a treasure hunt for halloween (I don't want her taking candy from even my neighbors) and things like that so she doesn't feel left out or like she's missing something. Just something easy and informal... Idk, what are your feelings on it?

blondie

So don't; it's your choice.

awildflower

I feel the same way as you do about holidays. I could handle thanksgiving, after all it's just a meal with family. I could maybe handle going to a x-mas or Halloween party. But as far as getting really involved I just don't have that desire, like you said, to commercial. I like the 4th of July because of parades and cook-outs and the fact that's it's summer at the lake. And I also enjoyed doing a b-day something for my kids this year. But, I'm just not looking at jumping into all that either. And surprisingly, neither are my kids. I'm not so sure people who do the holidays are all that excited about it either especially with the bad economy. Just my thoughts on it.........wf

Mickey mouse

It's your choice. I would wait and see whether it's something she wants, she's a little too young to express an informed opinion yet.

Quandry

We are excited about Christmas.

My daughter went out and bought a scraggly fake tree. We all went to the store and picked out ornaments. My daughter and I hot-glued red berries in different spots on the tree, sprayed fake snow on it, put a cute skirt around it, and put all the ornaments and lights on it. It is beautiful. We got some Christmas music, decorated the mantle, put up stockings (even got one for each cat) on the mantle, and decorated it with greenery. I feel like our home is specially decorated for Christmas. Each year we buy new things to put up.

We don't spend lots of money, but we do have hot chocolate together and enjoy opening the gifts and having a family meal.

cognac

Thnxs. I guess I was just wanted to hear that it was ok and that I'm not going to disappoint her...

alanv

In England the only thing we make much of are birthdays and Xmas. I too feel what is the point. Most people in the developed world tend to have most things they want within reason so you end up giving something they already have or not suitable. I know that it is the thought that counts but surely it is better to give a present any time and when you know what the person wants.

chickpea

i am with you on this one, in terms of being absorbed into
the commercial tsunami of "holidays"

i came out of and returned to "the world",
so i had half a lifetime's experience of holidays
and have decided i like it a whole lot more being
outside the circle...

meaningful tradtions are another matter...
bring your kids up with some kind of tradition
that captures the spirit of the original "holy-day"
and focus on that aspect.....

commercialism has definitely cheapened
the experience immeasurably

yknot

Cognac....

I feel the same way.....

..... but I do love the clearances......

Make your own traditions.

bluecanary

meaningful tradtions are another matter...
bring your kids up with some kind of tradition

chickpea hit the nail on the head. I did not feel deprived that we didn't celebrate holidays as a kid. I did feel deprived that we didn't do anything else! A handful of times I got a present or got to do an organized activity like a peanut hunt. I wanted so badly to do more of that. I would still love to do another peanut hunt. We would tell people that we could give presents at any time of year, but we never did. My family knows how much I love wrapped boxes. They could give me a bunch of empty wrapped boxes and I would be thrilled. Now when I get presents, I don't want to open them; I just want to look at them.

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