My wife was talking to an elder at the meeting recently. He asked her if she was still on restrictions (for our pre-marital hanky panky). She said yes. He went on to imply that they would probably be lifted soon.
Then- and this is the part that stunned my wife- he asked, "Now who was on the judicial committee with you?" She gave him the benefit of the doubt by naming the two other elders. Then he asked, "Was I on that committee?" She said, "Well, yes... yes, you were." He apologized, explaining there had been a lot of other things going on in the congregation recently.
So here she had worked herself up for so long about even going to the elders... and he didn't even remember being there!