I do not doubt for a single moment this poster's story. I believe it did happen. It happened to me as well. There was no brushing it under the rug. I had two THREE hour meetings (that is six hours!!) of questioning. They wanted ALL DETAILS!!
I have talked to other ministrers, pastors, and etc in recent months. They were mortified by this. They also felt it was extremely inappropriate. That is the way I feel too.
Sorry for your bad expeience.