When Does It End? (page 2)

restrangled

Little girl lost....welcome to the forum and I am sorry you are still suffering.

If someone still feels threatened by associating with you, it is encouraged to avoid you to protect themselves spiritually.

From my experience, you never are really absolved of your DFing, you will always have a "reputation".

My Dfing was reversed which is highly unusual. It was supposedly erased from the records, but I never recovered. It seemed to be a scar for life. Whether it was in my own mind, or for real, I don't know.....I just never felt like an accepted human being after that.

Stick around, you'll get lots of support here.

r.

yknot

I am so glad you have decided to join!

Some good points above and for the most part your shunning will continue until you 'prove' yourself in their eyes.

I know this all to well as I am constantly the stuff local needs talks are made of!..... and am currently being shunned by several in the KH!

Anywho here is what you do..... get active or at least be seen as active.

Sit in the first 3 rows and be seen taking notes zealously and WTs/Keep/KM highlighted with at least two colors!

Raise your hand every other question. If you aren't being called on you might have to talk to the Elders as to why and they might suggest a bookstudy with a pioneer.... accept if offered.

FS FS FS.

Speak as theocratic as possible especially how grateful you are for the loving assistance of the congregation and Elders to bring you forward in your thinking and actions as compared to whatever caused this situation.

That is all you have to do......for about 3 months ......six if you are in a hardliner congregation.

I do hope you continue to post often, lets us know how you are progressing and your observations during the process.

hugs.................yknot!

yknot

mouthy

Welcome to the board ... Once you have been d/f & reinstated, your looked at with distrust.
Move on my friend... You dont need to go through this

Glad to have you aboard.> Grace Gough Canada

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jwfacts

Welcome. I look forward to hearing more from you.

After reinstatment your treatment will vary from congregation to congregation. It also varies depending on what you were d/f for, but the stigma is like a permanent tattoo.

I remember being told an old brother in my congregration had been d/f and reinstated about 40 years earlier.
A single sister that was a pioneer and pillar of the congretation for over 20 years got d/f for sleeping with and then marrying a bible study. Many people were so shocked and offended by her actions that they refused to forgive her even when she was reinstated. She was never the same after that, even years after being reinstated.

Being a JW is being part of a highly judgemental group and it is very difficult to escape your past.

jamiebowers

Since you've been reinstated there should be no problem with your family associating with you, so why not just quietly fade and join the real world? Tell us your story, and there's bound to be someone to give you good advice. PM me if you want to talk on the phone. Welcome!

Open mind

yknot's advice was on the money, imo.

also, this year's drama might have a little bit of a moderating effect on super-hardliners. The repentant son, who was only privately reproved, but was widely know to have been sowing his wild oats in the world, was included in dinners with other good JWs right away.

That's a bit of a change from previous thinking of making the person prove themselves for an extended time.

Your mileage will vary of course.

There will ALWAYS be some who will view you with suspicion. Just the way it is.

om

asilentone

Welcome to the board, LGL. By the way, we do not shun you. Sorry about your recent experience.

cattails

If congregation members see you out in service

doing the door pounding, and commenting at

meetings then the elders show you respect and

get invited to get-togethers then you know it's

back to being at square one. Square one is a

big step in the JW culture, you get a free boost

to it after you 'dedicate' yourself and become

a publisher, then if you ever have to get back

up there it's a long haul. That's what I've seen.

Little Girl Lost

You have all been very kind ... thank you!

I had a bad day the other day and signed in here under this name. Now I feel like a complete moron. I'm not a lost little girl. I'm a grown woman and it's about time I quit whining and get on with life.

There are valid points made by all of you and I have been received without reservation. Some of you know what I'm going through. I've decided to just move on. By that I mean I'm going to quit being the victim. It's everyone's right to accept me or not. It's my right to accept them but not worry endlessly by their rejection. This self analysis will hopefully serve me well. (and possibly anyone who feels the same way).

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