The greatest poets and artists include both men and women. I would guess that I am more socially illiterate than emotionally illiterate. I wonder if that might be more at play.
But that's ok. My art may suck, but I know what I feel, and I express it. And that right there, that is the key. If a woman feels something, but doesn't know how to communicate that feeling, engages in mental games, manipulates, etc... then isn't it really a matter of failure to communicate?
With my ex, my intuition would tell me she was feeling one thing, and she would claim to be feeling another. But my social illiteracy would dictate that I would accept her explination, because I didn't know how to tell someone I thought they were lying. In hindsight, that was a huge mistake. She'd say I didn't listen to her, but the truth is I DID listen to her, and tried to improve the exact things she complained about. The problem is, she didn't tell me what was REALLY going on.