In July 1972 I was baptized. My husband walked out during the Oct assembly because he felt I had wrapped my entiire life around the WTS pursuits and JW friends...which I indeed had done. He came back two weeks later and agreed to "study".
Things were looking up for us all...."the friends" were at our coming and going from our home all the time, and inviting us to all the get-togethers, etc. Everything was coming together nicely. Our five kids had many new friends and invites to overnights, roller-skating parties and so forth.
Comes the day to hubby to be baptized at the convention in Pittsburgh PA....he got as far as the door and balked. He just could not go through with it and be able to live with himself. He did not like the WTS lifestyle, all the meetings and being expected to deliver WTS literature for the rest of his life.
I was devastated, hurt and disappointed. When we got back home to New England, "the friends" were told about hubby's decision and the BIG hurt began.These "friends" stopped visiting ME and the friend's children all dropped my kids as if they had the plague. Support and caring are not words that float through the WTS-trained heart on a regular basis. The one good JW friend that did stick by me.....moved with her family to Tenn.....and then WE moved here to upstate NY.
I will never understand the WTS mindset and how these lemmings all decided that me and the kids were somehow remiss because their Dad did not go through with his baptism. I should have known that this organization was a cult when that happened but I chose to go along with the "do not take it out on Jehovah because a few jerks acted badly" idea.....but then I ignored three more decades of stupidity while still believing this was "the truth".
Finally the scales fell off my eyes and I walked away in 1999.....but the total surprise of a whole congregation, after 16 months of lovebombing before I was baptized....and then treating us ALL as if we had done something despicable.....this never fully went away in my heart. All this talk about how "loving" this organization is....is just that.....talk.