For those that were/are SINGLE in the ORGANIZATION, did anyone encourage you to marry a WEIRD JW?

by BonaFide 25 Replies latest jw friends

  • BonaFide

    BizzyBee's comment about the elders encouraging her at 19 to marry the 40+ yr old widow with 4 kids made me remember similar stuff.

    The elders encouraged me as a young brother to stay single. Until I was 28 and a C.O. Some of the younger sisters seemed to like me, but the friends in the congregations I visited always wanted me to marry THE WEIRD ONES. They called them "Spiritual." I told them I didn't need help finding a sister, but they kept trying. One sister they recommended seemed like she never bathed. Another one didn't believe in deodorant, she used a ROCK that she carried in service. Another sister had been divorced TWICE but she played the KINGDOM SONGS on her guitar and THAT'S WHAT THE FRIENDS THOUGHT WAS GOOD FOR MARRIAGE MATERIAL. Uh, sorry, no.

    Not that I am great, but I like to try and get the girl myself.

    And the cute ones? Some of the friends HATED the cute sisters, criticizing their style of dress and implying they were "impure." One sister told me to stay away from a certain sister because she hadn't been raised in the truth.

    There was a beautiful Filipino sister I met once who was interviewed at a circuit assembly I attended while here on vacation. Everyone was talking about her. About a month later, she disassociated herself and moved away.

    Anyway, and YOU? Any stories about WEIRD PEOPLE trying to marry you?


  • wha happened?
    wha happened?

    Oh my gosh! The sisters I was set up with back in the day. One particular sister decided I was the one. I wasn't even baptized yet. She lived in a tiny trailer and always invited me over for dinner. She would tell a sister in the hall, (who is married to a good friend of mine), that it's been 6 years since she "had some" and she needs to get married. Ask Wha? over for dinner so we can spend time with each other. My buddy would call me and just harrass me with grotesque mental pictures. After I started dating the ex, this sister hooked up with an old boyfriend and was df'd.

    After I divorced and moved back to my hometown area, there was a sister who decided I was the one. She approached me in the parking lot before the meeting began. I had driven up in a car my father gave me when he passed away. She went on for about 5 minutes about how "sexy" the "car" is. After she was done getting all lathered up over it she went into the KH. I looked over to some of my friends who were there and asked them if I should feel violated. I had a nightmare about this sister once that she kidnapped me, tied me up and fed me viagra. It was truly ugly.

  • BonaFide

    What H? Man I thought I was the only one set up with uglies and oldies and weirdies.


  • wha happened?
    wha happened?

    oh and the sisters would get sneaky. Inviting me to concerts and offering to drive. I say ok and then we make a stop and pick up a sister who of course sits next to me.

  • Hope4Others

    Well I recall a couple of well reminded me of my ex.... full of hot air, arrogant and thought he was god's gift to women....I dated him for a bit got engaged then I thought I'm out of my mind, worried about getting disfellowshiped for breaking an engagement but kicked his sorry ass to the curb....and then the elders approached me and said we are glad you called it off....whew what a relief I had horror stories of the sanctity of engagements...

    the other was a sweet real nice guy, his parents were constantly trying to get me over for supper....there just was no click there for me just friendship.. I did feel bad in away for him he couldn't seem to do enough for me in helping but I did not have feelings that way.


  • whataburger

    I had an elder's wife ask me, at 22, to wait until her 13 year old daughter turned 18 - pretty much an arranged wedding. I might have considered it if the family had money but they did not. The girl is now a very pretty, often disfellowshipped woman with a lot of emotional trouble. It's not her fault, though - I truly feel she is the victim of the WTS.

    I had a couple older, single sisters make it painfully obvious they were interested in me and wanted things to move forward fast, which made for some awkward moments before and after the meetings. But my biggest problem was the young teens falling for me and making my life difficult as I stood behind the magazine counter and they would hang around the counter.

  • mindmelda

    I didn't marry until I was 29 because I came from a very small congregation where you never met anyone. I finally met my husband long distance through a friend, but he wasn't baptized at the time.

    Thank God I married a "bad Witness"! He never has been too deeply involved in it. I'm proud to say he quit attending meetings long before I did.

    Mainly because one day he was working alongside a JW elder (he's a plumber) on the same project, and a Mormon guy was asking why JWs believe they're the only ones that God will save at Armageddon.

    My husband pointed at the elder and said, "Ask him, he's the expert." and the elder heard him and said, "Because we do, that's why." and ignored both of them for the rest of the day.

    My husband said to the Mormon guy, who he worked with a lot. "And that's why I don't go to the KH anymore." and laughed.

    Working with JW elders was a eye opener for him, like the day one of the elders said to him, "I don't care about your job, so don't get in my way. I only care about my job and if you get in my way, you're dead."

    The outpouring of Christian love he saw working in construction with JW elders had a lot to do with his fading away. He got ripped off by JWs to the point where he would only work with one or two of them that had proven they wouldn't.

    Business dishonesty was fairly common among the JWs he worked with, and justified by all sorts moral acrobatics.

  • no more kool aid
    no more kool aid

    When I was about 17, I get this call from a 40 year old guy with kids, so I said let me get my mom for you. He said "no I wanted to ask you out". How sick is that? That was not the only weirdo interested. Then I had a relationship that was broke up by all the hen pecking old bitties at the cong that told him if he was going to get married he should marry someone that is more worthy. Worthy is apparently poor, ugly, older with lots of kids. Well, he found someone "worthy" alright. Many of these weird mismatches don't last very long. I am so happy that my kids will have more to choose from that the fresh crop of 16 year olds or a thrice divorced cat lady.

  • Blithe Freshman
    Blithe Freshman

    During my time in the org. my children were teens- early 20's. I spent the greater amount of my time discouraging the matchmaking that was done for them. Weird JW does not begin to describe the people that my children were encouraged to date.The worst was a young man chasing my younger daughter, his family got very involved even driving 7 hours to visit us to let our family know how if she would only marry him they would always take good care of her, not to let doubts about his ability stand in the way. As a parent the need to co-sign on a car loan I understood, but if your parents feel the need to co-sign on a marriage somethings really wrong!


  • WTWizard

    All they had in mind for me is that Value Destroyer Training School--pretending that was going to be my "husband" (as if a guy needs a fxxxing husband--save those for the "sisters"). They did not want me to attract any of the "sisters", and did a damn good job of driving them all away from me. (I must add that Jehovah Himself, that Almighty Lowlife Scumbag, helped in that department as well.) Ultimately, they were (and still are, despite my missing boasting sessions--it just means extra work for them) hoping that I will go through the Value Destroyer Training School, bring every congregation of Jehovah's Witlesses throughout the country up to Critical Mass, allow them to hijack the governments, and plunge the whole world into the Second Dark Ages.

    Any questions as to why we need even more apostates?

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