Well 3 months after I wrote that my friend got married and decided that it wasn't such a good thing to talk to me. He married a lady after knowing her less than 5 months. She's a jw and they now have a long distance marriage cuz they live 3 or 4 hours away from each other and my friend can't leave his job right now - his prospects of finding another job as good as the one he has now aren't so great.
This guy does not sound very stable, IMO. He makes a life long commitment to a woman he's known less than 1/2 a year and they're not even living together?? What kind of half assed marriage is that? I can understand him not wanting to quit a good job but wouldn't the logical thing be that his wife moves to where he's stationed at?
So when he told me that he got married and didn't think it was such a good idea to chat anymore I was fine with it. I told him that I would respect his wishes and I have. I have kept my word. No contact. Nada. So imagine my surprise when my friend text messages me at 4 in the morning on Saturday and carries on a conversation like what was said before didn't happen. Amazing. I don't know if his marriage is working out but I want to find out. I'm just gonna take it slow and easy. Oh, he texted me again this morning and said "Hi". I missed speaking to him. No doubt he will text again.
I'd be very careful here. Just because someone gets married shouldn't end a friendship. Either he still has more than 'friendly' feelings towards you, or he's not a very good friend. I'm guessing it's the former. He jumped into this marriage without looking, is most likely regretting it big time and is looking for a soft shoulder to cry on. While it's true that men and woman CAN be 'just friends', it doesn't sound like this is one of those times. I'd be very careful here.