When I was in the JC, they counseled me to come back to meetings and all would be forgiven.
Now, just to set the record straight - although my 'sin' was minor, I DID feel guilty, and I WAS repentant. I just didn't believe in the JWs anymore, though I still believed in their concept of 'sin'.
So, why was I disfellowshipped? I believe now, that by definition, it was 'apostacy', although back then, that word was not in their vocabulary.
However, the reason they gave me, was that I refused to 'accept their counsel' and return to the KH.
Who knows WTH they mean/say ............ it's all irrelevant, once you know TTATT,
It is important, however, to discuss these issues, because some of us on the board are trying to help people escape (NOT ME, no way, I'm done!) and if I can help y'all with your loved ones, maybe that's a good reason to stick around!